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Friend making multiple fake accounts online

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 10:34

Looking for opinions really on this behaviour. Sorry for the length of this and thank you if you make it to the bottom!

As far as I have known this has been going on for about 15 years. My very close friend has a cousin who we are also quite close friendship wise. My friend has a closer relationship and can probably bring up topics I can’t with her (she is ultra-sensitive and the slightest thing can trigger her)

Easier to summarise:

-Cousin of friend is making MULTIPLE fake accounts on Facebook of men. Not just 1 or 2 but we are talking about 10-15 different accounts.

-All the accounts comment on her normal facebook photos and statuses saying how ‘beautiful’ she is, how she has an amazing body and how they want to have sex with her.

-The scary part is the language for each of the accounts is totally different and she is really keeping this up. For example spelling is different and general language tone.

-She is having active conversations with these accounts on facebook under her photos so we can all see (work colleges, family etc), all the comments can range from 2- 85. So really she is talking to herself through these different accounts.

-Obsessively posts daily photos of herself with cleavage, all the accounts comments to say she is fit, sexy and over derogatory comments I cannot say on here. The most rudest I could mention is I would love to ‘motorboat’ your breasts (and other things!) All in front of family and friends on facebook. Honestly I cannot believe some of the comments. Some comments even stating they are having wet dreams about her!

-The cousin is following one male celebrity also where she actively comments on EVERY single photo the poor man puts up, saying how gorgeous and sexy he is. How she has special ‘dreams’ of him and how she wants to meet him and ‘give him a good time’. One ‘admin’ I think on the account commented on her post to say they have noticed how much she comments and wants to ‘thank’ her? Is this a warning for her to likely back off a bit?

-This has been going on for at least 15 years. She has episodes where it’s not happening and then all of a sudden there will be a serious fluctuation of these comments all over her facebook posts.

Sadly they are quite clearly fake as the profile photo has been taken off Google (we found) and randomer’s facebooks. The accounts only have about 2 friends and it’s overall an extremely fake account. My friend has mentioned that she has noticed Cousin switch from her facebook account to one of the fake ones which Cousin quickly hid the screen.

She is the topic of conversation as soon as she leaves any friends gathering as we are all aware of what she is doing. Whilst I feel so bad for her, my friend has tried to bring it up a couple of times and it has gone seriously south. It apparently falls on death ears. She also gets defensive and will go days or weeks without seeing or talking to friend as a way to punish her for bringing it up. It’s a toxic cycle and nothing seems to be changing.

I’m worried about this type of behaviour and what it can lead to. The accounts that she has made up are having genuinely, life-like conversations with her. I believe she is aware a couple of us know but she is still doing it.

She has had some triggering events in the past and she did lose a sister about 4 years ago which we feel has made her behaviour a lot worse. I know she has seeked counselling for it and I think as far as I know she may be on some type of medication but im not sure on that. She is overall a lovely girl but has jealous tendencies etc (friends who have babies and are married as she doesnt have kids or is married herself herself)

She has lost a lot of friends in the past as she tends to fall out with them, or they bring her up on these fake accounts and her punishment is going cold turkey on them.

Anyone have any idea if this is something more sinister or if I should just simply be keeping out of this? I dont feel its a lot of my business but I couldn't forgive myself if anything happened to her. I dont know if its attention?

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Foodbanksshouldbeobsolete · 26/04/2022 10:40

That sounds like some serious narcissism right there!
I wouldn't put up with the toxicity being given silent treatment or tiptoeing around her either. This is somebody I would be distancing myself from as much as possible.
Is she dangerous? Probably not (but who knows). But she is certainly dishonest, manipulative, and probably delusional. I would not want this person in my life

LaurenKelsey · 26/04/2022 10:42

I’d mind my own business and stay out of the drama and gossip.

Foodbanksshouldbeobsolete · 26/04/2022 10:43

Omg I'm so sorry I don't know what happened there! So many repeats. I have reported most of them as repeats.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 10:45

Hi all I'm so sorry I'm having site glitches and didn't realise my threads were posting multiple times! I've informed admin. I will take a look at all your comments x

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 10:46

Foodbanksshouldbeobsolete · 26/04/2022 10:40

That sounds like some serious narcissism right there!
I wouldn't put up with the toxicity being given silent treatment or tiptoeing around her either. This is somebody I would be distancing myself from as much as possible.
Is she dangerous? Probably not (but who knows). But she is certainly dishonest, manipulative, and probably delusional. I would not want this person in my life

She is quite crazy and delusional. Unfortunately (not blaming) but serious mental health issues run in the family and have led to people going missing and even death.

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BlackDahlia88 · 26/04/2022 10:46

I agree with @LaurenKelsey.
I don’t think it’s any of your business to get involved in.

My spidey senses are telling me there’s more to it than this, hence you posting the same question 4 times….

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 10:47

BlackDahlia88 · 26/04/2022 10:46

I agree with @LaurenKelsey.
I don’t think it’s any of your business to get involved in.

My spidey senses are telling me there’s more to it than this, hence you posting the same question 4 times….

Spidey senses were site glitches!! No more to it

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SheWoreYellow · 26/04/2022 10:51

I would report the fake accounts to Facebook. No harm in trying to cut off the source of the habit. It’s harder to set up multiple accounts these days so she won’t be able to instantly replace them.

I know it’s not up to you really, but also I don’t really see the problem with quietly reporting them.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 10:54

SheWoreYellow · 26/04/2022 10:51

I would report the fake accounts to Facebook. No harm in trying to cut off the source of the habit. It’s harder to set up multiple accounts these days so she won’t be able to instantly replace them.

I know it’s not up to you really, but also I don’t really see the problem with quietly reporting them.

Would she get a notification that someone had reported them? Thank you

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toastedcat · 26/04/2022 10:58

Oh god, this is awful! But also kind of fascinating. As others have said though, I'm not sure there's much you can do aside from feel sorry for her and hope that she eventually seeks help.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 11:16

I've never seen anything like it @toastedcat and her closest friends tip toe around her with fear of upsetting her about it just by simply bringing it up

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 20:17

SheWoreYellow · 26/04/2022 10:51

I would report the fake accounts to Facebook. No harm in trying to cut off the source of the habit. It’s harder to set up multiple accounts these days so she won’t be able to instantly replace them.

I know it’s not up to you really, but also I don’t really see the problem with quietly reporting them.

I've tried reporting but Facebook don't do anything🤷🏻‍♀️

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SafeMove · 26/04/2022 21:11

She sounds very poorly. Are you asking for advice, trying to process what she is doing or just wanting people to agree with you that her behaviour is strange?

Whilst her behaviour might not be what you would do, who is she actually hurting by doing it? It sounds like the consequences affect mostly herself but as she is an adult, that's her call. I wouldn't get involved as it doesn't sound like you could offer her any help or support with mental ill health. What other role you could play?

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 21:25

SafeMove · 26/04/2022 21:11

She sounds very poorly. Are you asking for advice, trying to process what she is doing or just wanting people to agree with you that her behaviour is strange?

Whilst her behaviour might not be what you would do, who is she actually hurting by doing it? It sounds like the consequences affect mostly herself but as she is an adult, that's her call. I wouldn't get involved as it doesn't sound like you could offer her any help or support with mental ill health. What other role you could play?

Well advice really on what to do and if anyone agrees like me they she's seriously unwell. Thank you

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MayorDusty · 26/04/2022 21:31

I've read about something like this before it's some sort of stalking and is a sign of mental illness.
The obsession with a celebrity and the creating fictional people to reinforce this character she's become and the narrative in her head.
Does she have any normal relationships?

MayorDusty · 26/04/2022 21:34

Celebrity Worship Syndrome was the thing I read about, have a Google see if that sounds right.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 21:38

MayorDusty · 26/04/2022 21:31

I've read about something like this before it's some sort of stalking and is a sign of mental illness.
The obsession with a celebrity and the creating fictional people to reinforce this character she's become and the narrative in her head.
Does she have any normal relationships?

God knows but it's not normal. She lost all her friends because she can't maintain any normal relationship, always feels like everyone is against her and is always after attention. She takes offensive to everything. She says things to people then backtracks and says she hasn't said it, deletes her message off Facebook etc so no proof of what she's said to others that may have offences them.

She has a fiancé of 5 years ... he must see the comments but as far as I know never says anything. No one actually calls her out on it even her own partner as they are all scared of her reaction.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 21:38

Offended*

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MissStarry · 26/04/2022 21:50

Aw I feel sorry for her; to need that much validation publicly so much that you’d create a fictional fanclub is unusual.

I’m not sure what the answer is; I guess this is for a virtual audience rather than for anyone she knows, so maybe she keeps doing it thinking that strangers will see the comments and believe them, so any mention of this by anyone she knows would be shattering the fantasy world and escapism, so not welcome.

It is unusual but it’s also not really doing any harm or actually your business. Maybe she enjoys this online fantasy both the comments on her pics and the celebrity ‘contact’, so unless you have a specific outcome in mind then I don’t know it’s your or anyone else’s place to take it away from her.

A lot of shit on social media is fake anyway and this feels a bit mean; what about all the filters/photoshop and real comments but based on a basic falsehood- not sure how this is worse/different?

MissStarry · 26/04/2022 21:52

Nb. I hadn’t seen your most recent update when writing and posting that

MayorDusty · 26/04/2022 21:55

The woman I read about had a husband, two kids and an entire fictional other life in her head. It was a minor celeb and she'd started with it quite late in life it wasn't a teenage start of a massive obsession. She ended up being committed for a while and apparently her mind had just split due to stress. She quit her job and purged friends/family, whoever went against it.
It may not be but this woman got rid of real people and created fictional friends to stick with her narrative.
I remember thinking how fucked up it was for her family.
Whatever it is it sounds like it's a job for professionals, no idea if it should be confronted or indulged for the best.

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JulyDreams · 26/04/2022 22:15

MayorDusty · 26/04/2022 21:55

The woman I read about had a husband, two kids and an entire fictional other life in her head. It was a minor celeb and she'd started with it quite late in life it wasn't a teenage start of a massive obsession. She ended up being committed for a while and apparently her mind had just split due to stress. She quit her job and purged friends/family, whoever went against it.
It may not be but this woman got rid of real people and created fictional friends to stick with her narrative.
I remember thinking how fucked up it was for her family.
Whatever it is it sounds like it's a job for professionals, no idea if it should be confronted or indulged for the best.

I am surprised she hasn't been committed yet. It's because we are all too scared to bring her up on it.

The conversations she is having with these accounts on Facebook is literally not different to having imaginary conversations in real life with people made up.

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SheWoreYellow · 27/04/2022 15:44

She won’t be sectioned unless she’s an immediate danger to herself or others. She’s a long way below that threshold I’m afraid.

Pinkbonbon · 27/04/2022 16:24

I'd avoid having like the plague. It soubdslike some sort of cluster b personality (who is in the grips of an obsession too) that's for sure and you don't want to be near ppl like that. You certainly don't want to be the one getting in the way of their obsession or threatening her delusion - that could be very dangerous for you. Avoid her as much as pos.

And be careful who you add on social media. Because if you've pissed her off then I wouldn't be surprised if you get catfished by her in future.

Juat to check - You have met the cousin right? I mean, SHE is real (and not just your friend making her up?)

And out of interest, was the celeb a child star btw?

Pinkbonbon · 27/04/2022 16:24

*avoid her like the plague

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