What does it mean when a bloke says

[BertieBotts]

"You're the horniest woman I've ever met"?

(I'm seriously not, BTW, just normal new-bloke enthusiasm)

I think it means that they find you very sexually attractive.

They could word it better tho

It means he thinks you're sex mad

good for you.

It means he wants to have a lot of sex with you.

I also think that perhaps his previous partners haven't been very enthusiastic. So if you are then he might be a bit like this

ha - my new boyfriend says things like that to me, and that im insasiable. and that i give the most unbelieveable blow jobs ( tmi, sorry)

i normally take it as a compliment, but them sometimes think, like what is he implying?

That he thinks you're a sex maniac.

Enjoy

Argh, wrong answer! I just don't know what's going on with this guy at all... I think I was secretly hoping you'd all say he sounds like an arse so I could write it off. I don't WANT to write it off... but wondering whether it might be easier than waiting around to maybe get hurt later

bertie - i know what you mean. But do you like him? is it a relationship that you want to be in?

my new bf. its clearly just a causual sex thing really. Hes nice enough, i quite like him, but its clear to me, that its just going to be a fling for a short while. Hence while im still dating other people.

Awh Bertie I get what you mean. But if you like him, why not just give things a go?

Hope you're alright, dear - I put a shout out for you a while ago and you ignored me

I don't think I'd want to hear that, unless I thought of the guy as very short term myself.

I'd think he was seeing me as a couple of shags, and basically spelling that out loud and loud. .

He is just saying that you seem to enjoy sex,which I hear is something women are allowed to do! and that you give amazing BJs,again absolutely nothing wrong with that so hold your head up high (excuse the pun)and see yourself as a modern,talented sexual being.After all men have been viewing themselves in this way for years,and let's face it,most of them are about as sexually talented as a cheese sandwich,so you go girl.

My boyfriend used to say that to me all the time when we started having sex (how good I was etc, suprising as he was my first time). We've been married for 4 and a half years, and he still says it. It doesn't mean he's only in it for the sex, just thinks you're good and keen and has been brought up to give compliments when they are due!

Is there anything else about him that makes you suspect he will hurt you? Or just his general male-ness?

Oh no, sorry SirBoobAlot - I didn't see it! I have been on and off the computer a bit recently.

I like him and I want to give things a go. But this is the same guy I posted about a while ago who said he didn't want to risk getting close to DS just in case we split up and it upset DS, and then said that he didn't want to be sneaking around when I suggested we just meet in the evenings and at weekends when DS was in bed/with his Dad, until we knew whether the relationship was going anywhere or not. (He hasn't really met DS yet apart from fleetingly) I just got the feeling at the time that he didn't want to end it but felt he had to, if that makes sense. Anyway, at this point I said I either want to be friends or boyfriend/girlfriend, I don't want to be a fuckbuddy, because I know I wouldn't cope with it. One or the other! He agreed and said he felt the same.

Anyway then his best mate died, suddenly (I know this is true as other people have confirmed it, so it's not just a story he's spun me) and he came round when he couldn't sleep and his head was a mess and we ended up almost sleeping together (TBH the only reason we didn't was a lack of condoms - we did everything else). I said at the time "Is this a bad idea?" and he said "I don't know" but we did it anyway - then we spoke on msn a couple of days later and talked about it and he came round and I did get some condoms and we did have sex again, and since then - nothing. We have spoken on msn a few times but every time I try to get a conversation going (just a friendly one) he disappears He left his watch here so he will be back at some point to get it, and I've decided to stop trying to contact him until that happens - he has my number, he has me on facebook, he knows where I live...

I suppose I am just confused. I know that grief can make people do strange things and I don't want to write him off based on anything because of this, but I'm quite hyper aware that I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt a bit TOO much, so I don't know whether I'm right to make allowances or not. And feel horrible for thinking that I shouldn't But just not sure where the normal boundary should be, if that makes sense.

Also just recently found out a load of stuff about my ex which has thrown me a bit - things that I was 99% sure he hadn't/wouldn't do and it's really made me question my trust in everyone TBH

Oops sorry for the stealth post didn't realise that was in me!

Some people, men especially, use 'horny' to mean 'attractive'. It's something I find extremely annoying.

Regarding your last post, having a sudden bereavement can do strange things to how a person sees their remaining relationships, which might be making him want to distance himself from you for a while. Best thing is probably to give him support but also space, try to maintain the friedship at least, and see if it gets any better after a few weeks/months?

Hmmm, I think you're right. He knows how to contact you and if he wants to, he will.

With regards to the other stuff, if I was starting a new relationship I would say the same stuff (about not getting too close to the children involved) so it sounds like he's nice enough not to want to hurt you and your son, which is a good sign.

Just take it slow and maybe send an fb/msn message every now and then asking how he is and if you can do anything - but let him come to you for anything else.

Ryuk, that's true - I don't think he did mean it in that way though as it was followed up with a comment about not being able to keep up

Gah, why do people say they like the strong silent type? All this silent mysteriousness is driving me nuts! TBH I'd be quite happy to be there as a friend too but I didn't know the guy who died and I am guessing that he is finding more comfort in people who did know him if that makes sense. Also it's only been relatively recently that we have got back into contact at all so maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable enough with me yet.

Right I am Not Going to go on msn, and I will wait for him to come and get his watch, as per my original plan.

(Sorry for getting sidetracked, SirBoobAlot - I'm good, apart from all this/ex troubles, how are you? )