Things just got a million times worse for littlecritter

[littlecritter]

Found a lump in my breast this morning. Been to the doctor and she referred me there and then to the breast clinic.

littlecritter

It never rains.......

I agree with most about the breast mouse (does that mean I'm in your breast?)

Wanting your XP for support so soon after kicking him out is natural and understandable.

He has been a part of your life for a long time and I can understand that he is your best frined.

You do, however, need a wider circle of support and as others have said, now may be the time to call a few close friends and tell them you have split up and about your lump.

Yes, you may get a few 'you have a lump and he's shagged about - twat' remarks but I promise you will also gain a wealth of support which you really do need.

Again, others have reassured you re the timing of this appointment. The sooner you are seen, the better.

Maybe meeting up with XP will give you a chance to talk.

As utterly awaful as this is, it does take the focus off what happened seven days ago IYKWIM.

And perhaps that is what you need to really open up to him and him to you........

Seven days is a long time when your life falls apart.

You are doing so well, really you are! Keep going.

Are the edges of the lump hard and quite rough? Or does it feel soft and smooth?

With regards to the XP thing, it's totally understandable to talk to him, as he's your best friend, but no matter what happens with the lump, I think it's time to speak to someone other than him, you really will need as much support as you can get, even with "just" a scare, it is a huge event in your life.

Hello all. Thanks for replying.

I had an appointment come through the post today for next Friday and then back for results the following Wednesday. The lump is quite deep in my breast and feels hard and smooth, definitely not soft. I have large breasts (GG cup) even after losing over 2 stone so maybe it is just a fibrous lump that I never noticed before.

XP says he will book the day off to come with me to the hospital. However, I am meeting my best friend on Monday and will tell her everything. She is totally unshockable so I know I can say anything. If she can come with me I might try to distance XP as I have spent the day imagining us getting back together. I need a bit more distance, I think.

I've had a fair few different breast lumps checked out like this, quite quickly, one was 4 cm, all benign. Just because they refer you quickly doesn't necessarily mean it's really bad. Good luck. X

Hi - just want to echo what whatname says. It is normal for lumps to be checked out quickly - our hospital always checks then out within two weeks of them being found. When my daughter found hers, we got an appointment with the breast clinic 10 days later. She saw the consultant, had an ultrasound, then a core biopsy. The consultant then told us she was sure it was a fibroadenoma (it was 5cm across)but the core biopsy would confirm this. We got the results of that 3 days later which confirmed it was a benign fibro. They are monitoring it in case it gets bigger, as she is only 15, and at that age they often grow. If so, they will remove it. Please don't worry - yours sounds to me like a fibro, they are really common, and if they don't get too big, then they often leave them in. Good luck. I know a little bit about how you feel as my mind went to horrible places with my daughter - I'd have changed places with her in a heartbeat.

Hi sweetheart, from my experience, smooth lumps are benign, the rough-edged jagged ones tend to be the ones to worry about.

Keep strong, and btw, massive congrats on loosing weight.

Good luck with yout df tomorrow, and yes, think some distance from you XP is a good idea. x