Just a rant. I am so sick of being taken for granted!

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

I have had enough of P this morning, he has just told me i do sod all and sit on my arse all day while he works blah blah blah...

I do everything in this house, cleaning, cooking, washing, i do all the kids stuff and organize all school stuff, holidays, hospital stuff (ds1 has cf) medication, im also doing half the caring for my Nan since my Mum died in April, i am also supporting my sisters as were ovbiously all grieving still....

However in P's opinions since i dont bring in a wage it obvioulsy doesnt count as work!

I only asked him to do the dishes sometimes this evening.

He isnt usualy like this he has been in a foul mood since his work hours increased a few weeks ago.

I have just text him to say that he knows where i am when he wants to apologise and until then he doesnt need to bother talking to me as i am really angry with him.

Jesus, what you do is the equivalent of about three full time jobs!

I work 3/4 time, drive kids around, organise, effect, (and in most cases pay for) every single thing relating to

docs,
dentists, (he pays orthodontic treatment but I organise and attend appointments)
schools,
gym classes,
extra lessons,
food shopping (he pays for this but I do it)
clothes shopping,
haircuts,
my own car, (he bought it I pay servicing)
cleaning lady(two afternoons/week.
house phone
house internet
kids' mobiles
kids pocket money

He:
Works full time
earns more than me
leaves for work after me
gets home before me

Pays mortgage, gas, electricity and water, and major household outgoings

....and still deludes himself that he contributes the most to the household.

Yeah, yeah, ya don't know how lucky you are, pillock-face, is what I tell him.

Sorry to hear about your mum, you must miss her.

I really do she was literally my best friend, i wasnt ready to loose her.

Im pretty sick of everything at the moment and i could really not do with p and his crap, he hasnt replied to my message so sod it im going to pick uo DS1 from school and take them out for the afternoon, he can come back to an empty house and sort himself out.
Were ment to be goin on holiday in a week, i am not going with him until he has apologised. I dont give a shit if i have to take the kids by myself.

If my DH said that to me, I would be inclined to stop doing everything in the house and when he asks why it's a state and why he has no dinner, inform him that since he has decided that all you do is sit on your behind all day, you decided to take him up on the suggestion...

I would but my house has to be very clean otherwise my DS1 is at risk of infection from dishes/wet washing/would on the windows ect.

Its really sad once upon a time i would have staked my life on the fact that DP was one of the nbicest blokes you could meet, he worshiped me (not in a horrible 'i think im a godess way' but he really would go above and beyond to make me feel special and help me out and make me feel loved.

We are drifting apart rather rapidly, he though working extra hours would bring us together so we didtn take eachothers presence for granted but it hasnt worked like that.

off i go to do the poxy dishes.

Point out that a recent study in the Irish Independent showed that a SAHM of two children performs the equivalent of €60,000 (minimum) worth of work. If you were to invoice your P for child care, domestic services, secretarial services, etc., he'd have to pay you an awful lot more than he earns, I dare say. And remind him that if you didn't carry out these duties, he would be unable to go out to earn 'his' money in the first place. If you need to ram home the point, make a list of everything you do over the course of a week, including how long you spend doing it, then create an invoice. Even on a minimum-wage level, I think you'd be shocked at how much it comes to - as will your P, hopefully.

Tisalina, I feel your pain, I have the same, I only asked him to pull the duvet up when he gets up (after me, natch). Asked him not to stuff damp towels back on rail, but to hang them so they dry and don't start smelling.

Twas too much apparently....

I just feel now that he 'has' me, he feels he doesn't have to try any more.