H is leaving, what now!?

[usedtobe]

to cut the long story short
dh has a problem with drink (IMO) but denies it and refuses to stop drinking or seek help to the point where he stated that if i carry on insisting on him giving up drink hell leave

i thought ill give it some time, maybe hell change but last night after another 'discoussion' hes made a decision to split
he said we have both changed from people we were 6 years ago and hell never give up drink.

im so...shocked? numb? scared? what do i do now? have no family here apart from my ds..

how would you move on?

Well, if he'd rather have drink than a wife and son, then he's definitely got a drinking problem, hasn't he? So I think splitting is probably a good thing, in the long run.

You poor thing, though, it's awful that it came to this.

No practical advice, but wanted to say I was sorry.

oh Lovey, I am so sorry. My Ex left for that, among other reasons.

Sadly, if he won't acknowledge he has a problem, it might be what is needed.
I moved on slowly.
You have to make yourself and your DS top priority, if drinking has impacted on your lives to the point that it has come to this then you can start recreating the life you want for the two of you without the drinking related issues.

I don't have much time right now but keep posting, the support on here is fab and so many have sadly been through it.

Take care x

thank you
i did wander if hes calling the bluff is hes expecting me to say please say i wont moan about your drink, master! ill even buy it for you

well im not
there is no way i can live this way
its just so sad it came to this, ds will be gutted

It is hard usedtobe, in many respects, but in all honesty their is also a lightness to life due to no longer walking on eggshells, and sadly if it is a problem now, it would be unlikely to resolve itself and your DS would grow up in an unhealthy environment.

I left it far too long and it has impacted on MY DC's , especially my DS.

Your DS may be gutted but at least he won't be growing up in a house where he is affected by on eof his parents drinking. May I suggest that if he becomes aware that drink is why his Dad left you keep an eye on how he feels that Daddy chose drinking over you and him. My DS has problems with this..'if Dad loves me so much, why doesn't he just quit drinking?'. It is tough for him to grasp and affects his self esteem.

omg
not only he asked it im going out with him tonight?!!! but also when i refused
hes just said im being unreasonable
he doesnt have a drinking problem he just enjoys a beer after stressful day @ work and
OCCASIONALLY gets sh*faced
apparentyl i dont remeber all nignt he has stayed in
f me i didnt know its so hard to stay in with your family or go out and not get drunk

how is it all my fault now?
this is doing my head in