DH works extremely hard and recently even more so. He resents it and rants about it when he gets home and I am sympathetic and want him to find another job but in the current climate that seems very unlikely. It is well paid but the rest of the team he works with are slackers and DH is too much of a workaholic and too hard working just to let it slide and he ends up taking on extra.
I am guessing a lot of equivalent situations around and i don't imagine in any way he is or we are unique on this front.
What do you do to show support? I start by making practical suggestions (forwarding him job adverts for alternative jobs etc or trying to talk to him about holidays) but end up just nodding in agreement or saying words which are meant to be supportive but don't seem enough.
On the holiday / day off front he says he does not have time to think about it let alone book it, we are not going on holiday this year, and this does not bother me but his workaholism does.
To confirm I do the same job as he does and we used to do the same long hours before I deliberately downsized (massively) so we could have our family and I could fit around little ones a bit more easily. But i have not forgotten what the long hours are like.