can we talk about intimacy for a bit......?

[sexmad]

i'm in need of help. have been seeing a fantastic chap for a while, he's v big on intimacy & the whole 'you don't have to have penetrative sex' to be intimate.

but i'm struggling a bit - as previous partners have been rather abusive, to the point of me in essence doing the sex thing to feel close to to them (well XH tbh as he was as closed as a book emotionally, but was still mentally/emotionally/physically abusive)

I have a really good sex life with chappy, and am extremely happy, but i'm struggling to get my head around the intimacy thing - it's like after so long I don't know how to do it.

we look into each other's eyes when talking, are a very touchy feely couple. Have a giggle in general take baths & stuff together.

am I just incapable of intimacy or is it just where it scares the hell out of me? how does one do intimacy? know I prob shouldn't be asking and it's a general ramble but really am curious.

Wow! What a ramble.

Hope you can pick out something relevant and feel free to disregard the rest.

sith no thank you that makes an awful lot of sense. I think in some ways he's never had to prove himself due to size, but emotionally he has so that's prob why he's in touch with his feminine side.

tell your DH thanks, he sounds lovely. there are some good ones left out there huh.

had another talk about it last night, & he said he did appreciate that I was trying harder on the intimacy front - so it's all good. very good.

thanks girls again. a work in progress.