Tiny Tiny orgasms - anyone know why?

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I am in a new relationship with a lovely man who is excellent and unselfish in bed. the problem is I have a hell of a job orgasming and when I do it is tiny and far away iyswim? Anyone have any experience of this? My last baby was 5 years ago and I can't remember whether things changed after that particularly as my HB and I had a very poor sex life. I am on the Dianette pill but I have no idea if this could be a factor. Any advice will be welcomed.
I used to be called chuffinnora btw.

Whats Chuffinnora mean?

it was my old posting name - i know people are suspicious of people posting about sex when they appear to be a newbie.

What are they like when you sort yourself out? Still tiny?

I guess her old MN name?

Can you huhumm.. have a proper one by yourself?

yes still tiny no matter what.

Dianette has an ingredient which lowers your testosterone levels and might be having an effect on your libido. I took it for a short while for PCOS years and years ago and it definitely reduced my sex drive. I would have stopped taking it even if it hadn't given me nasty headaches as I like sex and missed enjoying it.

I take dianette for my skin which was awful after i had the children. It works brilliantly on acne but now i wonder if i need to look into changing it.

Yes I think you should. Orgasms are very important.

I mean, loads of people dont get them from their partner but you need one every now and then even if its a solo effort!

quite possibly poor pelvic floor, sorry
do your kegels

Googling Kegels. If i don't know what they are that might be the problem eh?

Have you had a hysterectomy?

That you are feeling even small ones is good, definitely a positive sign. I'd say relax your mindset, grip with your pelvic floor and let the rest, um, come!

No hysterectomy or C Sec. 2 vaginal births. Both needed stitching afterwards but I don't remember the details.

I will certainly have a go with the pelvic floor exercises and report back. Thanks

Antidepressant medication? speaking from personal experience this has a terrible effect on sex drive.

have you put on weight?

Exercise might help, improve the blood flow to the area, it makes a huge difference to me anyway.

Kegels definitely need sorting before starting to fret over hormones. However - long story, but I once had to take meds that lowered my testosterone levels. The effects were quite surprising: for one thing, I suddenly became incredibly attractive to men (and felt 'girly' for the first, and last, time in my life). My appearance didn't change in the slightest - it must be one of those primal thangs. Back on topic: my orgasms did change in nature. They still happened the same, but were more diffuse & less explosive.

I was as fit as fuck, so def not due to pelvic strength/elasticity. It was a strange experience. All that said, the muscles are the most likely culprit, especially if you're out of practice. Orgasms tone them up!

No weight gain or depression meds.
I think you are right Itsgraceactually i need to sort out the pelvic floor first before i try anything else.
I thought because I didn't have any problems with incontinence my pelvic floor was fine. But having had a look around it is beginning to make sense now.