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i'm not enough

28 replies

banol · 06/07/2010 20:42

I'm new to this, i have a massive problem my partner is elsewhere at the minute due to him being angry with me...i feel im stuck and need some massive advice, in the past 3 years we seem to have argued non stop, i try to do my best whenever i can he is 7 years older than me but thats not the problem, we have a daughter together and i have 2 young boys from my previous marriage, he has a teenage daughter and young son from previous relationship, his kids hate me cos im not there mum they feel iv taken him away, he's not that good with my 2 sons either though. when we argue about stupid things he always walks out and calls me all sorts of names i get told im not wanted and only used for sex. when he's in a good mood he never apologises for what he said instead he says its cos i made him angry. im now home on my own with my 3 little ones tucked up in bed i feel so lost and believe he has made sure i rely on him which is why i feel so down now, i cant seem to get on with anything else and my mum died in march only 51yrs old of stomach cancer, im struggling as it is he just keeps putting me down but i love him and feel i have to beg him to come home, he calls me misrable and the worst mistake of his life, i know i need to laugh him off but iv lost all my friends cos he didnt like them not got very much family my sister he hates cos shes young free and single said shes not trusted. so iv only got him. he said he'll try couples counselling but now iv booked it he's changed his mind. im lost.

OP posts:
msboogie · 06/07/2010 22:01

the reason your kids are playing up and hard to control is because they are being affected by their awful home life.

don't pretend they are not affected by this man's behaviour - you are fooling no one but yourself. You said he walks out and calls you names, you are downtrodden and miserable, grieving for your mum with no support from him, you aren't allowed to see friends or have a job, do you really think they are blissfully unaware??

he enjoys treating you like shit and he doesn't care what its doing to the kids.

chattymitchie · 06/07/2010 22:02

banol let us know how you get on

winnybella · 06/07/2010 22:07

Yes, do come back.

Best of luck

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