i have been with my husband for nearly 5 years married for 2. i had my DD last august and due to the effects of the birth and past history have been suffering from severe depression. im under the care of a great mh team and my husband is being the best possible help. hes a real hands-on dad and even took the time off work and looked after her for 10 days to let me go away for a "thinking" holiday. He is so good in every way such as booking me into the hairdressers to get my hair done so i can feel a bit better or running me a bath. he is there in all the emotional meltdowns. I can't go into all what he does for me and I am so so lucky to have a wonderful husband. He is in for the long haul and will do anything for me to get better.
The thing is i can't have sex with him. I still find him attractive and love being close with him but when it comes down to penetration i just can't do it. I freeze up get tense and it just doesn't happen. So far this year we have had 5 successful attempts. It does annoy him, i know it does but he understands that i can't. He won't push me into doing anything.
Does anyone have any ideas as to what i could do to show him how grateful i am to have him without it ending in a disastrous sex attempt? I make him his dinner the odd time, (he always done the cooking anyway) and buy him stupid presents but its not enough to show him how much i love him and how great he has been. It is a bit vague but any thing would be welcome. I can't lose him and i am terrified of him waking up one day and deciding he doesn't want to deal with me/