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Feeling a bit trapped...(long sorry)

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bananastainsonallmytops · 05/07/2010 20:50

Hi everyone,

I am currently living abroad with my Husband and DS.

I have no friends/family (that care enough to stay in contact) here or in the UK, a bit sad, I know (I promise I'm not a psycho, people just don't want to stay friends with me for whatever reason). My husband and I have been together for 3.5 years, married for 9 months). A lot of that time was spent in a long distance relationship. During one visit I got pregnant unexpectedly and moved to his home country because he was still a student. So I stayed and stayed...
(We did move back to the UK for 6 months but neither of us could find work)

Our relationship has had severe ups and downs over time but now we barely see each other and we still argue intensly. We just had an argument over something so trivial it isn't woth mentioning and of course his reaction was swearing then storming out to buy beer (not a shit load but my problem is that he is dependant on alcohol calming him down).

I don't feel the way I used to about him and it feels like we are flatmates rather than a married couple sometimes.
I came from a very unstable background and really don't want the same for my DS.
I don't think I can afford to split, I can't stay here on my own, I have nowhere to stay in the UK or have any money to get by, the little work experience I have would not get my very far. I don't know if I want to split but sometimes I just feel trapped and I think that plays a big part in how I feel.

I'm sure what the purpose of this is..I just needed to get the thoughts I can't say out loud off my chest.

Thanks for reading any how.

OP posts:
snuzzdizz · 05/07/2010 21:33

Hello Banana,
I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I don't have any great advice, but just wanted you to know someone is thinking of you. Just keep posting here if it helps to get things off your chest. How old is your DS?

bananastainsonallmytops · 05/07/2010 21:51

Hi snuzzdizz,

Thanks for your response. I really appreciate it. I just get frustrated I can't talk to anyone and I feel like I'm going mad sometimes.
My DS is almost 2. I love him to bits but he takes so much energy from me if that makes sense.

OP posts:
bananastainsonallmytops · 05/07/2010 21:53

Just noticed my spelling is awful, a combination of tiredness and being upset.

OP posts:
snuzzdizz · 06/07/2010 09:19

Hi Banana, sorry I didn't get back last night, I had to go to bed - I have a 2 and a bit year old as well, and my God he's exhausting! So I can fully empathise with your DS taking all your energy. They are hard hard work sometimes, obviously lovely most times, but still draining. They want all of you!
I hope things seem a bit better this morning, if not, come back for a chat, and if all I can do is listen, well, I hope that may help

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