I have a crush - give me tips for dealing with it !

[Daydreaming]

I have namechanged for this.

I have been alone for a few years and for a very long time I felt that I could never love anyone else, because my exH was the love of my life, etc. I can't say I have been happy, but recently I have felt more contented and have been enjoying just spending time with my young DD, and sometimes going out with friends.

However, I have just developed a crush on someone at work, and I don't seem to be able to think about anything else ! The good thing is that I think it's a sign I am finally over my exH, but on the other hand it's made be realise that just being a mother is not enough for me.

I know it will pass, but in the meantime I keep thinking about being with this person, etc. I don't think this person is at all interested in me, so it's very much a one way feeling.

Please give me some tips for dealing with it !

I am with my dh and sometimes i get crushes on people sometimes him sometimes not its natures way of keeping the juices flowing ......once you love yourself its easier for people to love you,how do you know he wont be interested in you? if hes not married or in a relationship ask him if he wants to go for a drink or something - being a Mum is great and fullfilling to be a great mum you have to be able to talk to people and mix with people happily .......go on,have a bit of a flirt -it will put a twinkle in your eye.

Thanks Nickschick. I think you are right. I guess I should just relax and enjoy feeling a bit more alive again ! This man is single, so I can flirt a bit without feeling guilty about it. I think this feeling has just taken me by surprise.

I think sometimes you can go from being so low emotionally that you bury yourself into your children who of course love you without end - so its kind of the 'safe' option but then hearts heal and you are ready again to live.