I want to get married, how can I convince him?? VERY superficial

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I always wanted to marry while I was still fairly young. I def. would like to get married before 30 (no specific reason for this).

Also dp is losing his hair and would like to tie the knot whilst he still has hair!

AND I would like at least one more child but would really like to be married for a couple of years before this happens. My dm had an early menopause so would really like to get another before 35 and maybe a third.

He is in no rush whatsoever! but I'd like a fairly long engagement to def. get the venue etc (also I'm so busy with other stuff it takes me an eternity to organise anything)

How can I convince him to propose? if I asked him he'd say no! I have explained all of the above to him but he's just like "yeah ok"

Could he marry his father quickly?

Or you marry his father? For now?

I told him I wanted a diamond for my birthday - he wasn't having any of it so I got a diamond necklace instead

Ask him if he can think of a real reason why not?

If he comes up with any reasons, post them back on here and we will pull them apart for you

Ok. That sounds like a good idea. He just seems to think that there's no rush but I want him to have hair!!

Tell him that if you died he would get nothing and that he would have no say in your funeral arrangements if your family chose to exclude him. Of course, this would only work if you haven't already made wills naming each other as the beneficiaries.

My DH used to use the "it's just a bit of paper" argument. My answer to that was "if it's just a bit of paper then what's the big deal about doing it??"

He has since completely changed his view and says that he really likes being married and can't imagine it any other way... Awwww

ahhh that's nice.

He would probably like the idea less if he knew we would become each others beneficiaries!

Oh sorry, didn't read the whole post. Just saw the bit about properties etc etc.

My dh spend five years telling me he would NEVER get married or have children. He proposed to me completely out of the blue and in the end it was me who was unsure.

We had a friend who was with her dp for thirty years and had two children but never married. When dp passed away unexpectedly, she encountered severe financial problems. Likewise, my brother's partner passed away suddenly and he hadn't adopted her ds- he went to live with relatives and is very uhappy. There are many practical reasons for doing these things sooner rather than later. However, imho, I don't think you should ever 'talk' somebody into this kind of decision. Explain why you want to marry, seriously explain the benefits to him and let him decide. When he eventually does, it's that bit more special if you haven't had to cajole him.

I asked my DH. Was so nervous and emotional I knew I would not be able to speak so spelt it our in tea-lights & bought HIM a ring. (and yes this was bloody years before EastEnders copied me!!) He said yes, then admitted he really wanted to get married but felt wierd about asking as I had been married (and therefore proposed to) before and he wanted it to be special and different. Worth a go - tealights are very cheap!!

DP and I have been together 9 years and getting married was a huge bone of contention.

He asked me to marry him 8 years ago and then did a u-turn after I got pg (which was planned).

I ranted and raged at him for 2 years about how he'd tricked me, he had no respect for me and our dd etc.

Eventually I just let it drop, because I'd completely fallen out of love with him over the whole thing and announced I was taking up a contract in Australia for 7 months and that he could come along if he wanted (I whispered that bit, I have to confess). Anyway, out of the blue, a marriage proposal!!!

Postscript: I said no......

I reckon and correct me if i'm wrong.......but............ the more independent and the less desperate and needy you are.............maybe a bit of competition..........

I agree with fairyfly. I'd waited for 5 years and had almost given up hope. I started going out more (without him), lost some weight, bought some new clothes and had a new hair do.

Dp was sure I had met someone else and was about to leave him. He became incredibly attentive and proposed about 6 weeks later!