How do you know a friendship has run its course? I'm friends with 2 girls I went to school with, and recently, one of them has changed and not for the better unfortunately.
I'm actually off to a music festival with her (and some other mates) at the end of the month so can't do anything til August really. But I think this friendship is over.
To clarify, we're all 20, none of us have kids yet.
L, the friend who I'm having problems with, is constantly after the closest thing in a pair of trousers, to the point it makes her seem quite desperate. Like, wearing a really short dress to our local pub. She used to be very tomboyish and when she's in a dress you can tell she's not truly comfortable. She's always going on and on about this lad, and when you ask are you seeing him she changes the subject or says things like "only for fun I'm not dating him or anything". Read into that what you will.
Anyway, for me that's not the biggest issue.
The biggest issue I have is how she treats me, and especially our friend B. She's always asking her for money, large amounts like £30, even though she works full time. She also only goes out with us if none of her new work friends or her 16 year old friends from her street are free.
When we do go out, we never DO anything, we just drive somewhere and sit in her car for hours. Or she wants to set off Chines lanterns or something. Me and B prefer going to the pub, or shopping, or planning and going on day trips to places with our other friend H. We always invite L, but she's ALWAYS got an excuse. If it's me and B, fine, she'll come out, if H is coming, there'll be some excuse.
Which brings me onto another issue. I think L has problems with disability. H is a wheelchair user. They've met on 2 occasions, and both times L and H seemed to get on. But if me, B and H go to the pub, and ask L, she'll ALWAYS say no. And she's actually said, "Don't expect lifts from me if H is coming out. I'm not going to be able to get her wheelchair in the boot." Fair enough, but she's never actually tried to fit the chair in. She won't go on trains so when 3 of us get a train, she'll refuse to come with us. She generally gives me the vibe that she's either jealous I have a new friend, or she's got a problem with H being a wheelchair user. This winds me up no end, I've only known H three years, but she's a lovely person who has tried to get on with my mates, and has succeeded in every case apart from this one.
She makes snide little remarks about B behind her back, and sometimes to her face. And she's generally unpleasant to be around. She uses some horrible terms as insults, mong being the big one (sorry everyone!) and when I confronted her about the true meaning of it, she said, "Oh I mean it in a nice way, I call my mates it."
I arranged a weekend away as a group for her 19th, as well as for the birthday of another friend. She didn't have to pay for hotel or theme park entry. She buys me a £10 meal for my 20th.
Sorry, just needed to vent. I'm going to the festival then I'm just not going out with her anymore. We've grown up, she hasn't. So, does this sound like it's run its course?