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Am i about to lose everything.

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belleshell · 03/07/2010 15:54

2 weeks ago, i told my H that i needed space away from him to work out whether or not we have a future. i was diagnosed with ME last year, and upto that point me and my H had had a rough few months, he had changed his job and was very stressed. but we go on with it. After the ME diagnosis H became more distant, he told me he didnt like to see me with the condition, and how much he didnt like it. over past 12 months he has shut me out altogther.He doesnt talk anymore but moans if i go on my lap top. I am learning to get on with the ME. But because he doesnt like it i try do do more than i should. Im back in work 24 hours, we have 2 kids and no family support his family are near by but dont offer help.

He wont go stay with his family (they pressurise him) and mine are 100 miles away so my only option is to move out into rented accommodation. My d is ok about it i think she is a bit young, my s as become very distant with me. \they are all away for weekend and s hasnt been in touch at all. H is very sorry and realises he has been wrong to push me away, we are going to relate and gonna try make a go of things, but i am really confused about what i want. at the min i just have enough energy to look after me and the kids i cant give anymore to this relationship, yet what happens if i have made a big mistake.

any advice please

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Fluffyone · 03/07/2010 17:04

How old are your children?
Speak to the Citizens Advice Bureau tomorrow. On the face of it, if your Relate visits don't help, I think the only option is for him to move out, not you. You stay in your family home, with your children.

belleshell · 04/07/2010 09:10

hi fluffyone

Kids 8 and 11, and i have asked if he will move out and he as said no. he did go for 1 night, but came back. i feel like packing up and moving back to my family and friends. but i am trying to be reasonable and fair on the children and H.i also have a job i love. i am so mixed up at the minute.

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