omg ive just had love/lust at first experiences and i had to walk away from him..

[Nointhemood]

because im married and have two children . Never felt like that before and hardly knew the guy but there was something there for both of us instantly. I can't explain it i so wanted to kiss him and him me and although we were touchy and couldn't take our eyes off each other nothing happened.Its completely mad and silly i know.
It was one of those if it was another place different time moment and then when it was becoming too hard we both had to walk away .

you were 'touchy' with him....what the hell does that mean!!??

has anyone ever had one of those moments. I feel a bit like Meryl streep in Bridges over madison county. I know dh isn't really my soul mate but he's a good man and father and im very lucky in that respect and could never break up my home for a kiss.Just wish i felt like that with dh.

You did the right thing Nointhemood...urequited lust you can live with..enjoy your life with your DH and remember how fortunate you are..

pull yourself together woman!!

well it was in club so i.e heads close together and he had his hand around my waist to talk to me and just brushings hands nothing sexual.

Thankyou i know msboogie i am back to reality this am.Guess im having a pre-30 crisis or something

I think that physical flirting like that - hand touching, waist holding, is certainly sexual.

Ask yourself, would your Dh like to know what you have done? If not, then it wasn't so harmless.

were you drunk?

I didn't do anything that i wouldnt tell him it was the feelings i had that im guilty of.Yes i was slightly drunk so you are bit more tactle when you are drinking anyway.Anyway i walked away thats the main thing.

You've not done anything wrong, you walked away. You're not made of stone though. Some other posters are being a bit harsh IMO.

I was reading this thinking, mm, arm around the waist, heads close together, hands brushing together... it reminded me of something and then I realised what it was.

Have you ever been to dance classes? I do modern jive and you literally have a gentle flirt with about 20 guys in the space of an hour and a half...really good fun.....and harmless to boot.

Maybe you're missing some gentle flirtation in your life generally?

I think some guys pump out pheromones. I've got a friend who seems to have this effect on women time after time...never has any problem in picking them up even though he's not particularly good looking.

Luckily, he uses his powers for good, not evil.

Oh some blokes just have this. And to be fair if he had his hands in those places he was being a bit of a flirt - which I don't like in a stranger.

Honestly he might do it a lot.

It's a nice feeling though when someone is that attractive isn't it. I remember the first time I met someone I know and it was like that...I didn't know for sure he felt the sme till ds came out with 'Mummy says you are handsome' and he said 'Oh well I think she is very pretty!' and then he got a bit full on and I realised he was just, well, totally oversexed if that's the word? and attached, as well...we still have a bit of a flirt thing going on but it's never going anywhere. He just has a way of making you feel very special.

I had a male friend like that once flight - he was just so touchy, he wanted to hold hands sometimes, was very tactile with hands on hips and stuff. He wasn't a sleazy guy, he was a lovely guy. I fancied myself completely in love with him - he didn't feel the same but the touchiness is incredibly confusing.

I have a platonic male friend who often gives me a hug and a kiss when we part and just for that moment it's a bit... phwoar! But he's friends with dh too and I know he wouldn't take it further so I guess that makes it safe which is why I can enjoy it.

He split up from his wife recently and one day was really stressed and asked for a hug. tbh for once i felt awkward - really wanted to be a good friend and give the hug, but momentarily concerned that he might want more than that. But no - he clung tight for a few seconds - a bit trembly - then gave me a peck on the cheek and said 'Thanks - I really needed that'.

Just goes to show that not all men are trying to get into people's knickers at every opportunity!

You had a moment, you walked away. Don't beat yourself up over it. Any chance you could spice things up with your dh a bit?

notinthemood hope everythings ok...use all that lustful feeling on your DH