christian shy guy.does he like me or not??

[kimplus4]

so, i really quite like i guy i met a church.
hes really intelligent, a climate researcher with a phd (way out of my league) (im just scraping a 2:1 at uni). hes smart and funny, an amazingly kind hearted man with a love for god thats so pure and trusting.. we go to our church housegroup together and had a mild disagreement so i emailed him to talk about it and apologise. i offered him to call me but he ignored that and later gave me his no to call him. i did and he didnt answer. however he then tried to call me back and i missed it.the next day he was busy doing a charity bike ride so i left it but called him back the next day and we talked on the phone for ages until i said i had to go... i ended the convo.. 'take care see you at church'.
this week i saw him at our group again and he said hi and was then straight off to talk to the men and ignored me. once i looked up and he was looking right at me but when i caught his eye he turned away.
he is away this weekend but i would love to spend some time with him next weekend just as friends to get to know him, we do seem to get along when talking alone. i dont know what to do for the best. he told me on the phone that he finds it hard at church as he really wants a family of hs own, maybe he thinks its oo much for him.... ive got 4 kids.. bugger what shal i do!
maybe he just wants me to go away. i dont know what to think!!
advice greatly recieved.

chocolate pant,, yes i do really have 4 kids and maybe im not interested in a serious relationship, more companionship, be that as friends or whatever, i dont understand what you are suggesting........ perhaps that i am lying in some way? why would i bother.... i dont know anybody on here in person....... i just wanted to get to know him, as it happens i have decided to wait longer to start a relationship and i have decided not to persue him in any way at all..... it was not my husband that just left me, we were NOT married but separation had been on the cards for us a long time before he ever left. i just dont like telling every intricate detail here on MN.
thanks but no thanks for thr judgement.
i dont think ill be posting in relationships again,,,,,,,what would be prefered is that i go out and shag whomever till im over my ex..... i think not, however forming friendships with a lovely man who devots his life to christ and others is right for me i think.

i just want me and the kids to be happy, he certainly shows my children far more love and attention than their dad does in church..... but whatever, i jut wanted opinions as i am confused as to what to do... its not all 'bollocks' as you put it.
i sometimes say ex h on here as its easier than saying ex fiance. iyswim. btw i became christian after having our children before that gets pointed out by someone....... geeese, to not have anything better to do than pick apart peoples posts.... hum,,, wish i had the time for such things.....

kimplus4 don't let people get you down. Some people here just seem to be troll hunting all day.

However if he's quite an old fashioned guy, it might be easiest if you find out if he is interested via mutual friend. Do you have a married couple you are good friends with? I'd certainly try to get one, to help you not jump to conclusions etc. There are lots of reasons a guy could seem especially friendly, good and bad (could even be someone still covering up that they are gay iyswim).

Just start as friends, and get other friends to find out more if you need to.

I hope it goes well for you.

kimplus4, build a friendship. Get to know him. Then see where it goes.

Kim, thinking that what will make you and the kids happy is Having A Man is a bad idea. Happiness doesn't come from other people, and it's a major, major mistake to think that finding someone to embark on a couple-relationship with will 'fix' your life. WHile you are in this mindset you will only be attractive to abusers, parasites and complete fuckups.

agree if you are just single DONT GET INTO ANYTHING ELSE, chill , and be friends, take it slow, dont jump his bones!

maybe decide @I want to be his friend@ and just have that as your goal?

you sound a bit desperate, and that will scare himm off

i dont think having a man will male me happy.......at all, i jst wanted a bit of fun and friendship as as for jumping his bones... come on really..
i already said i was at church when i met him, im hardly going to be jumping on him am I?? lol, thanks for all the advice but im just gonna make lots of friends and progress with my life as it is at the moment, who knows i may feel different in a years time!

I think you have the right idea kimplus4, it's a shame people on here don't understand/appreciate some of your terminology. Perhaps you may have been better posting this in the religion section? Anyway, my advice would be to pray about it and just ask God that he will show you His will - keep open to what He wants for your life. Keep your focus on what God's plan is, while taking care of your DC's, and see what happens...

I divorced xh (ten years ago) and was a single parent for 2 years. I remember wondering if I would ever find the right man for me, also wondered if I wanted another man after what I'd been through. I prayed about it and God kept telling me that He would answer, but in His time and not mine. Be patient and know that He loves you. Ten years down the line I'm happily married (although we've had our problems of course!) and I can look back and see how God had his hand on mine and DC's lives.

x PLP x