Hello. I have namechanged for obvious reasons.
I didn't know if I should've posted this in the 'Health' section, but I think it is affecting my relationship more than my health, so here goes....
Since a few months after my second child was born i have been experiencing urine loss but it only ever happens during sex. I have been pelvic-floor-exercising like mad to try and help it, but to no avail.
Because of this I have been avoiding sex with my P even although mentally I want to do it , I'm embarrassed ): Even when we do have sex it stops me from enjoying it as much as I used to, and P gets upset at himself because he likes to make sure Iam pleased. But I just can't , knowing 'that' may happen.
It is really putting a strain on our relationship. I finally told him why I didn't want to do it and although he was kind and reassuring, telling me it doesn't make a difference to how he feels about me etc and not to worry about it, I still do. He was really puzzled as to what I meant when I told him - he said he thought that was only happened to women who have had vaginal delivery , not c-section (I have had 2 c-sections) he siad "are you sure it's urine?" yes I'm pretty sure it is.
What to do? I know I should be grateful for having a happy life and 2 lovely DC's but this is getting me/us down...