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So yet again...

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Simple · 30/06/2010 18:26

my DH goes on a work day out and was due home at 5ish (one dc (3) has vomiting bug, another, 18mth, at home and two to collect from school at 5.30. No word from him despite me requesting him to be home so our vomiting child doesn't have to go out.

I hate this man.....no surprises.

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mumblechum · 30/06/2010 18:33

Oh dear. Is he entirely independant in terms of getting home, or reliant on a lift?

HappyWoman · 30/06/2010 18:42

ahhh I remember those days well.

He is not respecting your request at all is he? A work day out taking preference over his own childs wellbeing.

It may sound harsh and maybe over reacting but he needs to know just how upset you are - how far are you prepared to go for this.

fwiw this would now be a deal-breaker for me now - but that is because i have set clear boundaries.

He probably just doesnt want to adhere to your boundaries and like many men (mine included) thinks you will not anything anyway - he will get a bit of earache and he will be in the dog-house for a while but nothing will change.

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Simple · 01/07/2010 11:40

You're so right Happy. This is a final straw for me, he's not even sorry, can't even put the effort in to say sorry. He's abusive, calling me a 'fucking bitch' in front of the children (in the car) and throwing directions at me whilst driving.

Last night he arrived home at 7.30 (not too late, I hear you cry) but he had been drinking and we have four dcs 8 and under. When he's been drinking he's loud and false, having a fucking celebration over one of the children taking their own socks off...really really annoying. I don't love him anymore and don't like him at all, he has no emotional intelligence, telling one of our boys to knock the others sand castke down (at the beach) because his had been, accidentally, knocked. I am too unhappy to even be gushily nice to my dcs.

Just about to phone the freedom project to leave him.

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Anniegetyourgun · 01/07/2010 11:56

"telling one of our boys to knock the others sand castle down (at the beach) because his had been, accidentally, knocked"

How absolutely horrible.

Anniegetyourgun · 01/07/2010 12:03

Sorry, that might have come over as sarcastic. No, I really do think that's a big deal. What a disgusting attitude he's teaching his children.

Not that the rest of it is exactly nice either. XH called me a bitch just once, before the DCs were born, and I gave no room for doubt that if he ever called me it again that would be the last thing he ever had a chance to call me, because I wouldn't be there. I didn't hear the B-word again for another 24 years, when we were in the process of divorcing, and even then he used it indirectly and sort of muttered under his breath. Heh, I really could have been one if I was that way inclined. Maybe he'd have preferred it.

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