Sad, upset and stupid and it's not even PMT

[lilibet]

I'm sat here with red puffy eyes and a wet t shirt front, because I am childish and soft! To start at the begining. DP (recently promoted from being bf) and I were, at the begining of the week invited to a meal to celebrate his SIL getting her degree, along with her parents and his parents. My immediate reaction was of not wanting to go - hassle of a baby sitter, very nice but very expensive restaraunt and I am on a diet and she is a stick insect. Phoned my Mum, who told me that she wasn't feeling well enough to cope with my boys, so a bit releived I told dp and uttered those increidbly stupid words 'but you can still go'!!!!! And of course he has. His parents have just picked him up so that he can drink and I have waved the three of them off seriously p**d off and feeling really left out. He has known that I have not been happy about this and kept reminding me of two very true facts. 1. I didn't want to go, and 2. I told him to go. He nipped to the shop before he went to get me a bottle of wine to drink tonight which was such a daft thing for him to do as I just started crying and told him I would save it for a night in together as if I drank it I would just sit there crying and drunk! Someone slap me and tell me to pull myself together!!!

Just because you told him to go doesn't mean you are happy he's gone IYSWIM! Men woudn't understand that logic though

pull yourself together lilibet! You didn't want to go and had a good excuse to use, but it sounds like a nice family party which he is going to enjoy! He sounds sweet for going and getting you some wine - open it up, put on a video that you want to watch (something girly he'd hate to have to sit through) and enjoy the peace and solitude. And when he comes back ask if he had a lovely time, thank him for covering for you not wanting to go, and tell him the wine was delicious.

Anything else and he'll just join the ranks of men who shake their heads and say "I just don't understand women - they say one thing and mean another". Which we all do of course but must never admit to!

Chin up.

Oh babe! I have to smile having btdt many times- he should have known to INSIST you went with him, the dorkhead. But can quite see that he might not have realised what he was supposed to do... Bet he's missing you though. Hope you feel better soon- why not crack open the bottle of wine anyway?

This brings to mind a gripe of mine... why is it always the mother's job to find a babysitter??

slap

Put your feet up and have a lovely night in! Open that wine, drink the lot, call your mates, paint your toenails....

my dh always organises the babysitter. and most of our social life actually. my job is to strike things out of our social calendar saying "no, they can't come and stay" "no, I'm not driving an hour and a half to go to dinner with that complete cow thanks very much" "no, can't do that then because it's dd's parent's evening" etc etc.

quite nice really

wayhay sambo!

she is right lilibet, a pedicure always makes you feel better....

ouch!!

Soupy, I think that could have somehting to do with the fact that they are my children and we only have my mother to ask! Feeling better actually, packing to move house and going to iron in a bit. I am just the queen of self pity.

I find that I have so few nights in on my own that they are a real luxury!"

Ironing??? That won't make you feel better!

Ah, the poor man didn't realise he was in a lose/lose situation: when you said he could go you forgot to tell him that you didn't really mean it I do know the feeling though lilibet but still, you are being unreasonable IMHO and he sounds lovely. So drink the wine and DO NOT give him a hard time later. That's my advice anyway.

Don't know if I can bring myself to tell you why I am ironing!!

Because he has been at home today and the washing was piling up a bit, so this morning i said (please imagine tone of voice and martyred expression) I said "if you wouldn't mind putting that washing in for me I'll iron it all tonight while you're out at the meal' and once agian the poor love has done exactly as he was told! So I have 6 loads of washing to sort and iron! If men do as they are told its wrong but heaven help them if they don't do as they are told when they should!! No offence to Dot, but how the hell can anyone be a lesbian and put up with a woman?