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louisewilliams · 27/06/2010 21:35

I'm 4 months pregnant... and got two lovley kids but over the last month my life is slowly falling apart. My partner looked me in the eye and lied to me - said he met up with friends to go to a gig but actually went on a date with woman. He says it was just a female friend.. but ladies am I a twit or is it just not right to ask another woman on a date (even if nothing did happen) when your partner is at home throwing up with pregnancy sickness?

He's basically very been very mean to me throughout the pregnancy... telling me I should never of had children. My son and I are messy (son by first marriage) but won't lift a finger to help in the home. He even watched me struggle to mow the front and back lawn this weekend but wouldn't help. Its got so bad my son has had to go and live with his father until i can sort things out. You see he's told me he's not going anywhere and I have to leave the family home with the kids. We are not married and i am not on the mortgage so I have no rights to stay. A word of advice ladies - cover your selves if in a similar situation. I gave up a very successful career to be at home with kids and now find myself with no rights and barely a roof over my head!!

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GypsyMoth · 27/06/2010 21:41

well,yes, some of us have found this out the hard way

do you have access to money? if so,take the lot! and anything else of value which is yours too

anothermum92 · 27/06/2010 21:44

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Anniegetyourgun · 27/06/2010 21:45

He says you shouldn't have had children, but he's fathered two of them? Be sure to stick the bugger for maximum maintenance. And meanwhile don't mow his lawn for him, if it isn't your home any more.

AnyFucker · 27/06/2010 22:11

So, so sorry LW

Can I suggest you immediately cease doing any domestic duties

And if LW is your real name, change it...too identifiable

First thing Monday morning, contact a solicitor (or start with CAB) and find out your rights, you may be pleasantly surprised

All the best to you

SolidGoldBrass · 27/06/2010 23:16

As AF says, get some legal advice. DOn't bother trying to 'save' this relationship, you don't need this knob around - find out your rights, what benefits you would be entitled to, and get rid of him. If you are afriad of him or he is or has been physically violent, inform the police.

dinopiratesruleok · 28/06/2010 10:31

You do have rights doesnt matter if you are on the mortgage or not you have a beneficial interest as you live there, and if you have kids together he has a responsibility to them also. He clearly has no idea what he is on about, contact CAB, Shelter (not just for the homless, they have a great website) and see if you can find a solicitor in family law who does legal aid or a legal drop in centre near you.

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