How long did it take you to finally have sex after having first baby

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ok,,my DD is almost 3mnths,born via c section,after her birth i got infection after infection in my breasts,and the shock of having a new born with no help apart from DH,got PND,all these made my sex drive GO,,its zero,nothing,hubby on the other hand is so understanding and has not forced me or even talked about it,he was at the birth and saw how traumatic it was for me so all he says is when im ready,but lately i've been feeling my spark back,,so am i normal to go that long or i need to do something??

You should are advised not to have sex until after your 6 week check (natural and section) just to make everything down there is okay.

shell,,ouch,,hope everything is back to normal,,

9 months. PTSD after a traumatic delivery and bfing was a libido sapper. Took a long time after that for things to be 'normal'. DH was understanding, never complained, was still sweet, affectionate and cuddly. Never felt pressured.

5wwks with first, stiches had healed nd it was my ,choice, 3wwks with second n again that was my choice. Its whatever u want n wen u feel ready

Nearly a year. C-section, bfeeding, all the stresses and strains of a new baby.

I know what you mean about the bfeeding, but you might find your attitude changes to that as your baby feeds less (post-weaning, for example). I certainly got over that, though DH did find it a little off-putting when my milk let-down when we were doin' the dirty.....

Your DH sounds like a star - mine was too, never pressured me, lots of hugging without it going anywhere else so we could maintain the affection and intimacy without sex, IYSWIM.