Help! Suggest an interesting name for an internet dating profile for a man - my soon to be XDH!

[Vagabond]

The man happens to be my soon to be XH.

He is my best friend and I want him to be happy and to meet another woman. I said I'd help him set up a profile for internet dating. We've looked at various sites but all the user names seem a bit uninspiring, pathetic and sad.

He wants to set up a profile but is stymied by choosing a user name. So, please help me ladies!

We are going through an amicable separation and I want the best for my DH (soon to be X). He is a loving father and it is desperately sad that we are splitting up but ....it just happened that way. I've posted before in case you think I'm a troll. I'm not.

Anyway, please - suggestions on a postcard would be wonderful!

TIA.

isnt it a bit soon?

what about KingDong

I am not sure whether I think this is very sweet of you, or very controlling.

Any hooooo, no idea.

Yes, maybe....

But it's therapeutic for both of us and it's inevitable that we will split. He needs a light at the end of the tunnel to figure out that he doesn't need to be alone and I can be here to help him through this. We've been best friends first and foremost and I want to help him as much as I can.

It might seem weird to some people but our situation is definitely unusual. I just want him to be happy.

Don't stress about the name, just write him a glowing reference [grin}

ehhh

ahem

hmmmm

I dunno....

This is odd. Why is he getting into internet dating before you've even split? And why is he involving you in it?

ReBoundman2010

Sorry bit flippant. Sounds twisted to me.

I'd help him by encouraging him but not asking anything at all about it, let alone knowing what his username is or what site. Because honestly, how would you like it if you met some bloke and his ex-wife set the profile up before they even divorced, because they were just that close? If you had any idea of boundaries or any self worth at all, you would run. Fast. That's not a couple who have emotionally separated in any meaningful way and it doesn't speak enticingly of a bloke if he's already having an emotional affair with his exwife.

I also think you need to ponder your chances of remaining his best friend once a new woman is on the scene in any serious way. Because if he treats her right, she'll be his best friend. Not you. And it might be amicable now, most people are amicable at this stage when they're the ones leaving, but in my experience things often get messy when third parties hove into view.

You can be great friends when you've both met new people and everyone's moved on. Right now, in my view you can help him and yourself most by establishing some emotional boundaries, because you sound unhealthily enmeshed.

"so how did you come up with your user name?"
"my ex wife helped me choose it"
"ok - just remembered I need to go and wash my hair"

This part of his new life needs to be completely separate from you. If he is hesitating because he can't think of a user name it's because he's not ready

Agree with confuzzled and digging - LET GO!

IHaveAnEmbarassingExWife

MyLifeIsControlledbyAScaryLAdy

WeakManDominatedbyWomanHeCan'tEscapeFr om

Any use?

How odd! Is it really so you can keep tabs on him once he is your ex?

tbh i think 99% of women aren't really that bothered about what a guys username is (unless it's something really awful)

most will only look at a profile if there is a photo so he should concentrate on putting a nice pic on.

he needs to do this himself as other's have said

I would assist him by backing off but tell him women like a little wit......Charlie Brookers Brain, or something!!!

go on mysinglefriend dot com

the site is set up for other people to write your profile so perfect for you to do it all

Thanks for all your replies.

I suppose you're all right. Believe me though, I wasn't trying to help him set up a profile so I could snoop on him. I wouldn't dream of doing that. I suppose it does seem rather creepy from the outside and any new potential dates would run a mile. Frankly, so would I!

I'm going to start a new thread to get some advice on something related to this.

Thanks for making me see sense.

Chocolatespiders - I'll check out the site you recommended as I guess it makes the whole thing less creepy!