Do your parents come stay with you?

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Both sets of my parents live 2.5 hours away and they never come stay with me. They do a 5 hour round trip to visit me for a day. I just don't understand, maybe my house smells.

Mine do, but they can't get there and back in a day.

That is a bit odd, although I never sleep well anywhere but home so don't particularly like staying over but 2 hours each way for a day is my limit!

No, but they only live two miles away. That said, they might vist once every 2-3 weeks.

DH's parents don't either though, they take a 140mile round trip to see us - usually coming at about 4pm and leaving again around 9!

No, but they live within an hour's drive away so no reason. DD sometimes goes and stays with them for a nigt - such as tonight, as I am going out. And they have stayed on the very rare occasion, maybe after some special night out or occassion when everyone has had a drink. PIls live smae distance and same scenario as mine.

Some people just really love to get back inside their own front door and to sleep in their own beds etc. Surely the main thing is that they come and see you?

Perhaps they will feel as though they are imposing on you if they do stay? Have you actually offered for them to stay over? Have you told them that you would like them to stay?

yes, once or twice a year tops, for the weekend. They live 3 hours away, so never come for just the day.

They like to go home to their own home comforts. I wouldn't take it personally.

No never

DH's parents did for a bit now even they try to avoid us as they don't like our smelly, scruffy house and all our animals.
They stay in our caravan on the drive if they have to stay.

I have asked them loads of times as I know the kids would love to have them over. My Dad has always been into staying at his own house but my Mum used to go stay with my sister heaps when she lived the same distance away as me. My Mum says she just likes to be in her own house, but so do I and I get moaned at all the time to go stay with them so they can see the kids.

I just think it's a bit selfish expecting me to uproot kids an all every month, and travel's not cheap.

It would be so much nicer if it worked both ways.

My PIL would come all the time, but they can't because FIL is ill.

Pil live on the moon in Blackpool, about 250 miles away and never stay over. We even have a spare bedroom now. They are nuts.

Mind you, mil knows I find her very hard work.

Sounds a bit odd if they expect you to come to them- that rules out them avoiding early morning noise with the Kidd, which I half thought might be the problem.

My parents and inlaws come and stay 3/4 times a year each , for between 2 and 4 nights at a time. We live at least 4 hours drive away from either of them.

In-laws only live an hour away so don't stay over, though I guess they could/might at Christmas as we're going to try and have it at our house for once.

My parents have stayed over. They live a four-hour drive away so usually it's more practical for them to do that. However, they have often done it as a day trip too. It's nothing personal, it's just my dad is a bit like me (likes being in his house, on his own!) and thinks as he has to do the drive back at some point, it's often as easy to do it in the same day as the next one.