oh sleeping down stairs

[maypole1]

Right my husband works shifts, but when he off he just wants to lay in bed, not spend any time with the family he wakes around 2.

lately he been off during the week while the kids are at school and i though brilliant we can do some really nice things together seeing the weathers so nice no chance.

over the last couple of months i have booked us a few nights out and each timed he moaned and we ended up coming home early.

now some of the women at his worked asked him out for a dink this week you should of seen him he was so excited to be going out well that was the last straw as we were men to be going out to tomorrow he siad he wasn't really looking forward to it

we had a row he siad i was jealous and bitter and i told him to sleep down stairs

i dont mind him having mates but he just never seems to want to spend any time with me

and if i tell you how long we have been married

am i being a bit ott

poor you!Fwiw i don't think it is a case of you being jealous and bitter at all! He's clearly gadding about at the idea of an outing with someone else, when if was dragging his heels when you mentioned it.

I've been with my oh for about 10yrs, and even the other night came back from work buzzing cos some lounge bar crooner has said something complimentary to him... It really got my goat, cos i know he'd freak if i came home telling the same tale. I gave mine a right good talking to... Men's egos are fragile.. Can you sit him down and have 'a chat?

poor you!Fwiw i don't think it is a case of you being jealous and bitter at all! He's clearly gadding about at the idea of an outing with someone else, when if was dragging his heels when you mentioned it.

I've been with my oh for about 10yrs, and even the other night came back from work buzzing cos some lounge bar crooner has said something complimentary to him... It really got my goat, cos i know he'd freak if i came home telling the same tale. I gave mine a right good talking to... Men's egos are fragile.. Can you sit him down and have 'a chat?

sorry for double post, what i meant to say was to reassure him of your feelings for him, but to tell him that it's hurtful for him to behave like that. I have very similar issues. My patience is wearing thin too... I'll end up making my own life, without factoring him into it if he doesn't buck his ideas up.

so maypole, how long have you been married?

i feel like he hates my company, and even though he has the whole week end off i know i will be spending it on my own.

we haven't spoken for 2 days

he left about 6am for work i told him he can cook his own dinner and wash his own cloths if he wants to live like a single person he can i have had enough

we haven't even been married a year

he has not come home so i rang him i am not sure weather he held the phone up on purpose so i could hear whats going on or weather he just pressed accept call by accident

i heard him talking about his ex and slagging me off to his works mates

so i have sent him a text saying i heard what you were saying to your mates about me dont bother coming home let one of your work mates put you up

i really feel this is the end i just dont know how we can come back from this please help ladies i am feeling so low no one to talk to

ohhh love, tis awful for you. I thought when you were joking about how long you had been together it was ages. So sorry it's less than a year.

You need to talk properly to him. You need to take about 3 hours away from the children and talk properly about your relationship. It won't be easy, and only have a glass of wine or so. But you do need to talk coherently, on your own about what is happening with your relationship.

Good luck. I have been there before and as I say tis not easy. There will be tears and shouting, but hopefully it will resolve something for you.

BTW me and DH have been together 22 years, married 12. We met when I was 17 and he was 21. So if we can do it, anyone can!

he came home broke in the door and , and siad that i am a mess and that i am jelous and dont want him to have any friends that this is an abusive relation ship, i am a bad mother and i am a mess.

he said i am no fun and he dosent want to spend any time with me and that i need HELP he is saying i am depressed and i give up kljjlkmlmm,

maypole,

What was he like prior to you marrying him, how long had you been together before marriage?. I have a nasty feeling you are now seeing his true nature.

He sounds like he is projecting all his issues onto you.

I would seek legal advice re separation asap, having such information will make you better informed.

This is no healthy relationship for the children to be seeing, what are you both teaching them about relationships here?.

Oh maypole, I am so sorry.

Where is he now? Is there anyone who can take the children for the day so you can talk to him?
SOunds to me that he is used to women trying to pelase him but you have done the right thing and told him straight out that you won't put up with it. You say he was talking about his ex, I think a good measure of a man is how he talks about/treats his ex partners. Do you knw why they broke up?

Attila knows her stuff, btw. Talk to a solicitor asap.

I agree with Atilla. He's on a slippery slope, this is not going to get any better love.

Sorry.