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Finally told him how i feel now i just feel stupid

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feelstupid · 22/06/2010 19:29

I finally told my mate that i have feelings for him. Now i just feel like an idiot and should have just kept it to myself. He said he had no idea and i shouldnt worry about it but i cant help think ive probably messed things up with him as a friend.

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feelstupid · 24/06/2010 19:16

The only reason i told him was it was quite difficult to hear about the woman hes interested in. Not in a jealous way just in an "he will never see me that way" kind of thing. Does that make sense. Its hard cos i do want him to be happy and i know its not gonna be with me but at the same time it hurts to hear it. He is a lovely guy and told me not to feel stupid and that he really had no clue i liked him like that.

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beingsetup · 24/06/2010 20:44

Why would you feel stupid? I bet he was really flattered and for all you know he might have other stuff going on.

JazzieJeff · 24/06/2010 20:57

Before my now lovely dh and I started going out, we were the best of friends for 2 years. He told me one day he loved me. Not just liked, but loved! He told me he would always love me no matter what I did, forever and he just knew it.

So yeah, I freaked out a bit! And the next day, just carried on with our friendship as if nothing had happened because I had come out of a sour relationship several months before, and another relationship just wasn't on my radar.

Four (yes, four!) Months later, it dawned on me one day when I was changing the wing on an aircraft at work. I was hanging upside down at the time, which may have had something to do with it, but I suddenly realised I couldn't possibly live my life without him. In true 'officer and a gentleman' style, I walked out of my work on the pretense of needing to go to the post office and drove to his work and told him there and then if he'd still have me, I was his. The overalls dripping in grease and unwashed oily hair with a pen stuck in the back only made it more romantic!

I'm not saying this will happen, I'm bot trying to get your hopes up. But think of him in his situation. It probably never occurred to him you liked him before yesterday (?) And he is probably shocked with this bolt out of the blue. Just give him a bit to get used to it.

Everything always works out for the best in the end.

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