Can a flirtation be harmless?

[flirtmacflirt]

Well, that's the question, can it?

Have started flirting with a man who I'm not attracted to, it's just fun.. and different

I know if my DH flirted with a woman in the same manner, I'd be very annoyed but I'm wondering is that just me being incredibly jealous, or can it be harmless?

What would you do if the person you are flirting with suddenly became VERY interested in you and it was obvious that he wanted a bit more?

of course

I know where you're coming from AF, I would get hurt and would also hate to hurt DH as much as he did me

Not to mention the fact that I'd loose the moral high ground

Will pull back, life's complicated enough!

Fart - well, that's kind of what the flirting was about, him alluding to the fact that he fancied me and 'would' - I don't think he would fight me off if I went for him.

I thought that I was ok though as I'm not interested in him in that way, but again, I suppose I could if I was being flattered enough, a bad day with DH could lead me to liking him more than I should

it can be harmless.

If you are deleting text messages, you obviously have something to hide, and if you have something to hide, you know you are wrong to do it.

not harmless in these particular circumstances

Moral High Ground.

It's a fine view from up there, don't give it up!

Oh, yes, keep the MHG, whatever you do

I also imagine you'd take a dim view of a woman you'd met, who was encouraging your DP with his admissions that he would sleep with her if circumstances were different.

In fact, reverse this. His partner has met yours. How would you feel if they were in text contact right now doing the same?

Thanks for all the input ladies

WhenwillIfeelnormal I have already stated in my OP and again in further posts that I would be very annoyed if my DH were texting in the same manner!

(Just to be clear, the texting happened once, the FB twice to date, it is very recent)

The only reason I was doubting whether this was ok or not is because my view is somewhat warped after his EA, I'm suspicious often for little reason and get jealous as often too - I was thinking that maybe normal people would think it completely harmless. I'm kind of glad that it turns out I'm not a complete loon

Actually Flirt, I was getting you to reverse this from his partner's point of view, not how you'd feel if your H was doing it, because as you said, you'd already told us that. You were once in that woman's position, after all.

Glad you've stepped back, but feel really sorry for this man's partner .

Oh I get you, well, I'm not sure how she'd feel, I get the impression that they aren't that serious and when she met my DH, spent most of the night eyeing him up

Maybe her OH noticed and decided to go one further with me? I don't know, I'm over-thinking it, I'm out-ey now anyway!

Thanks for the advice though, much appreciated

I get it now

You were being groomed as potential swinger material with all 4 of you

< titter >

If you are deleting texts it ay be because your partner would draw the WRONG conclusions and go off on one.

It does not necessarily mean you have something bad to hide