My last thread was all about H lying about the presence of his girlfriend when spending time with DSs. H and I separated almost two months ago and he started seeing new GF two weeks later, immediately taking DSs on sleepovers with her without my knowledge.
I just wanted to say Thanks to you all as your lovely words of support helped me handle this weekend's events brilliantly.
H had the boys this weekend. He returned them (three hours late due to massive traffic jam) happily. DS2 was very very upset to see Daddy leave but it was handled positively. I even took DSs out to the car to wave off H, GF and GF's daughter. DSs confirmed that they had had a lovely time, and that GF and daughter were lovely. Telephoned H later to say that DS2 was calm and happy again.
It was hearing all of your experiences on here that made me fully understand that DSs need to have a relationship with their father. I have let go of the reigns and, as long as DSs are safe, happy and well-looked after, then that's good enough for me. I trusted H with their welfare for the past 12 years, plus he had impeccable taster when choosing to be with me so I have chosen to stop worrying about children and GF.
We've even decided to meet on Wednesday to discuss more structured visits, plus begin to sort finances.
What a difference two weeks makes. I did stifle a little smirk at the thought of H and GF being stuck in a traffic jam for four hours with my two squabbling in the back of the car...