Email

[ScarletRed]

My husband denies he read it on purpose but he read an email from my girlfriend.

I have nothing to hide all I said in the email was:
I finally told DH about the girls only weekend ? he says he has to work and who would watch the kids!!! Unbelievable!
My girlfriend responded: He can take a week off for his brothers wedding but not a couple of days off for you to have a weekend away? Nice!!

He is now going on about me bitching to my friends about him behind his back!

I am not going away until October and I have organised for friends and my mum to help with the 3 kids.

I am pissed of he read the email and then having a go at me over it, when to me the email is trivial to him it's a great big mountain.

I am not making any sense - just angry!
WTF is his problem!!!

As am sure you know, many men don't do guilty conscience/apologies/backing down. What they do believe in is: the best form of defence is attack.

Don't let him try to make you responsible for A) his selfishness in refusing to look after kids,

and B) for his rudeness in reading your email.

Sympathies!

Mr ScarletRed - (I assume you are reading this)
you should back off.

Truth hurts?? He's angry his own selfish behaviour has been recognised...

I agree with the above, however, I would also feel hurt, even if I was in the wrong, if that email was about me. It sounds very disloyal.

If you had read an email from him to a friend where he talked about you in similar terms (even if it was accurate), would you not feel a bit hurt by it? I know that I would find it hurtful and, as Aldred puts it, disloyal. You are criticising him to someone else, and your friends response makes it sound like you talk that way about him often. So, of course he feels you are "bitching about him", and is hurt by the fact that you feel it's ok to do that.