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Friend pg but her dh is mentally unstable

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Pruni · 12/08/2005 15:53

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ninah · 12/08/2005 15:59

well is she happy? if so I'd be happy for her. It's not always possible to agree with other people's choices, but provided they are choices, then you have to live and let live

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MascaraOHara · 12/08/2005 16:00

Did you write about a friend dh womanising and whether or not you should tell her?? if so is it the same guy?

TBH I really don't think thetre's much you can do, except be happy f or her and support her.

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Pruni · 12/08/2005 16:03

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Mytwopenceworth · 14/08/2005 12:18

Do you find it painful because she's a good friend and you love her and you feel she is in a relationship that is not good for her, and that another child with this man is a closer tie and less chance of her getting out. Do you fear her being hurt if she in the future sees him as you see him, or he does something to hurt her and yet do you also fear that she will never see him as you see him! Do you feel that she could be happier with someone else, or on her own, than with him?

All you can do is what you have said you are doing - continue to be a good friend to her, make those congratulatory noises and be there if she needs you because you are right in your attitude that it's not your place to try to make her see the things that you see, and I think you are doing the right thing by being there for her.

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Pruni · 14/08/2005 13:22

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Mytwopenceworth · 14/08/2005 15:36

Sounds like she may see what you see, but doesn't want to admit it, in which case, like you know, there's nothing you can do except continue to be there for her. You sound like a lovely person. Wish I had a friend like you!!!!!!

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Pruni · 14/08/2005 21:11

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