Should I meet ex-DH's new GF?

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DH left here last autumn and is now very happy with his new GF. I have been variously but am now really generally very [happy]. I'm not seeing anyone, but am dating a bit.

Ex-H is really, really keen for me to meet his GF... which is putting me off the idea! They are moving in together soon and will be looking after our DC every other weekend - she has a child too - so I suppose it'd be a good idea. But I'm a bit confoozed. Do I want to? What will I say? What do we talk about? Where? When? What do I wear??! And what if I got all upset, or weird, about things when she was here?

Have any of you met your ex's new GF? And what was it like?

""I dont see the need for us to meet, why do you? If you like her and trust her enough to look after DS, well so do I""

Love this line, it's spot-on. I will use it. My instincts are really telling me that there's something not-very-nice in his motivation to get us to meet.

I wouldn't. You don't need to. Like someone else said a quick hello and introduction at picking up/dropping off time should suffice.

"But GF isn't like that at all! She's brilliant with him, like Princess Diana and Supernanny all wrapped up into one person!"

Boak!

I am pleased you like it, its not often I come up with a good un!!! DONT meet her, please!

trust your instincts- always.

It's very difficult. I'm afraid I was childish AND REFUSED TO, STATING THAT EVEN IF i DIDN'T LIKE HER, HE (EX) WAS UNLIKELY TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT SO WHAT WAS THE POINT?

Thought there might be a hurry to meet her so the DCs could, but they already seem to have met her.

So, don't get it. Why does he want your approval other than to make him feel less guilty? Doesn't seem to be a reason for you to meet her, is there?

Agree with others. He seems to be calling the shots, so a reply such as, 'yes, am sure our paths will cross one of these days..' doesn't make you sound vindictive, but in control...

But in an ideal world, surely it would be nicer for everyone (esp your kids) if you could all get on or at least be civilised towards one another. I don't think there is any need to become friends but if she has responsibility for looking after your children, I think I would want to keep things as pleasant (even if just on the surface) as possible.

Perhaps its just too soon. Autumn isn't that long ago.

"'yes, am sure our paths will cross one of these days..'" Oooh, equally brilliant!

I will start off with this one and, if he pushes it, I will use porcamiseria's fab line next.

I feel very prepared.

Oxocube - I completely agree. I do.

I just really don't fancy it. I know I'll be scrutinising her, trying to see what all the fuss is about.

I'm with oxo - I've met ex's GF and now DW and didn't think twice about it. We've been on a couple of family trips out and have got together to celebrate DD's birthday. I think it is much, much nicer for the children if all can get on, and in the long run is much easier on you - when there have been problems, I have been able to ring her and talk about it to sort things out. She is a lovely, lovely person. (just has terrible taste in men )

It's not like this woman was the OW - I think there is a danger of building things up in your head; if you meet her, you'll realise she's not all that, is a perfectly normal, nice person, who you can have a normal chat too.

If you don't, she'll get more and more glamourous in your imagination, more intelligent, cultured - or, worried, you'll start picking up on tiny things the kids say and imagine her to be a monster.