update on ' the man is a liar' and what, if anything should be my next move

[nextmove]

just over a week on from my last post on this.
The man, who i declared a liar, beacuse he just got a new girlfriend no longer has a girlfriend.
Unsurprisingly it lasted all of 2 weeks or so.

i avoided all contact with him until yesterday, after id heard thought the grapevine that he wasnt seeing her anymore.

He called me, which does not surprise me in the slightest.

I was vague and uncomital and did not give him my usual attention.

I dont want things to settle back into old habbits, it either needs to be or not.

How on earth do i go about this? with a man who says he wants it , but has, in his words 'inertia'

SolidGoldBrass - Have you written a book about Good Sense and Positive Attitude for Women?
If so,could you post a link.
If not,could you consider writing one,please.
xx

nextmove run fast. I empathise .

Why not call his bluff and ask for some kind of commitment?

Watch him run a mile......

this is you isn't it?

Just wanted to update and say thanks. I have finally told him not to call me or contact me in any way again.

Hes still going on about his gf on one site, while being on several dating sites. Then hes adding girls to his facebook. Then deleting the bit that says ' so and so is now friends with so and so' Almost like he doesnt want people to know.
Plus this girls hes adding are all about 15 years younger than him. Boobs out, half naked pics etc. Awful.

Funny how sometimes people turn out totally different to how they portray.

I think it was good i stuck around as he was his own undoing. Im discusted by his behaviour really. If i hadnt stuck around in my head he would have been perfect forever. But now i know hes not.

Surprisingly i dont feel too upset about it now.

Sorry, but he intends to be with you in the end?

What end is that then, after he's finished waving his cock in the direction of anything that moves?

Tell him to f* off.

i already did!!!!

His behaviour and a lot of thinking on my part made me realise that it wasnt about me, it was about him.

There was nothing i could do to make him want to be with me. Id never be thin enough, or intelligent enough, or funny enough. or like exacally the same films. No matter how many bands i saw, he would still think he was better. No matter what i did he would have already done it and would know better.

Soldgold said about the ill thing. He had a cold the other week and was after sympathy. I had flu he never once asked how i was or if i was feeling better.

He is an idiot and will never be happy. I shall continue to see my nice man, and yes, it might not be the same, but i know hes a far nicer person.

Fantastic. Well done you!
Glad you saw him for the tosspot he is

Have a good time with your nice man! x

Thank you.

I do feel enoumously pleased with myself. Im just not really sure how i got myself in a situation where i was so blinded and thought that was acceptable behaviour.

For example he said i should go blonde as he loves blonde hair. I waited a few months then did it. He made no comment at all. Never mentioned it. When i did bring it up he said yes, he had noticed.

Then i was saving for a large purchase that he had helped me pick. Then i went on a weekend break with some girl friends. he questioned why i was going and my dedication to saving and said i was chosing to do that instead of save and that offended him as he had put time into helping me pick.

Total tosser.

You are so best of out of that one, he is controlling and manipulative...

Don't look back, give thanks you have got rid of him...

Well done!

Oh well done, nextmove. You're so much better off now, tosspot that he is.