Being single and proud in a world f ull of couples.

[poshsinglemum]

Sorry to moan again. Ever since I got pregnant I have been hanging out with a lot of married ladies, most of whome are lovely and have no problem with me being single.

It just emphasises my alone status esp as a single mum and I just feel- what have I done so wrong in love? Don't I deserve a loving relationship, support, a lovely home etc. It makes me feel like an outcast or no-hoper at times.

I can hardly get out as dd is so young. People say try online dating but tbh I just waant to go out and at least meet some guys and have fun rather than in front of a screen.

mcdonalds on a sunday...full of yummy single dads!

Mcdonalds is evil!!!!!

Seems to all play on your mind a lot! There are millions of single mums you know, it really is quite 'normal'. Enjoy some of your time with other singles and you might feel less at odds?

It's funny, I experienced similar self doubt and my answer to that was to allow myself to realise that I was happy alone, to decide to not allow relationships or men to be the gauge of my success and happiness. Within a year of turning my perspective regarding singlemumdom to the positive, I got together with the most amazing person.

I know that wouldn't have happened had I still had my head wedged up my arse.

Aren't there single parent dating sites?

And single parent's groups?

How about trying some of those?

Why would anybody put themselves through that!?!?

I suppose it depends on how needy/lonely you are and how young you are, but I'm 40 and have accepted that I will be single for ever now. It's liberating. But I think I'm 'lucky' in some ways that I feel content in my own company. I enjoy socialising but don't need to have somebody at home too.

The number of women who put themselves through the arduous task of finding somebody half decent...... why?! is it worth it, the stress, the doubting yourself? occassionally hoping that the half decent one likes you back? all on the off chance that you might meet somebody eventually?