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Getting past performance anxiety

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Bonzai · 13/06/2010 23:21

My DP of five months suffers from erectile dysfunction caused by performance anxiety. When we started going out, he was able to get an erection but would lose it at the crucial moment. His doctor has prescribed Cialis and we have tried it a few times, though I am trying to persuade him to use it more consistently (he finds the lingering hair-trigger erection effect awkward in public). Now things have improved slightly - he is able to keep his erection about 50% of the time (drug-free) - not ideal, but a lot better than before.

He is happy to talk about it, and I was impressed by his matter-of-fact attitude when it initially came up (!), after we'd known each other only a couple of weeks. He took himself off to the doctor - I didn't have to persuade him. He has since admitted that it has been a problem since he lost his virginity (at the age of 23). He is now 27 and has slept with a couple of women before me.

I am not wildly experienced either but have had two long-term relationships. I don't know how insistent to be WRT the drugs. We have fallen in love and I can see a future with this one, but it is frustrating - how can I help him get past this?

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mathanxiety · 14/06/2010 04:35

He needs to have a thorough medical check up to rule out factors such as vascular complications arising from diabetes, Heart disease, Atherosclerosis, high blood pressure, low testosterone and metabolic syndrome.

Other underlying problems might be stress, depression, or unacknowledged homosexuality. If physical causes are ruled out he should talk with a psychologist.

WestLondonHypnosis · 14/06/2010 18:15

There is a wealth of information about ED and Performance anxiety etc here it is clear and consise.

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