Feeling upset

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Me and my husband have been married 4 years we have 2 DCs.
Last night we shared 2 bottles of wine, it was friday after all, long week at work for DH.

I wasn't drunk just happily merry but getting a bit tired. DH was making innuendos to me all night. We dont have an active sex life as we would like, due to my lack of a sex drive but i do want it sometimes. Like last night we went to bed, i gave him a kiss on the neck and said to him 'Kiss Me'

He said 'No'
I thought he was he was messing around, i then said 'Why?' (thinking he was messing around) and he just said 'Because i don't want to'

Within 5 mins he was a sleep, so he could have been tired. I just don't know what to think now.

Do you often say 'no' to him? Maybe he's playing the 'see how you like it' game.

Maybe he'd had too much too drink.

Ask him tonight.

My sex drive isn't good, but i dont say 'No' to him. I never refuse to kiss him.

Definitely ask him and tell him it made you feel hurt and confused. Maybe he was just too tired and thought kissing you would be a signal to go further (and didn't want to turn you down later on)? Or maybe he was playing a power game, showing you how he feels when you aren't 'in the mood'?
Either way, I hope you can sort this out.

You had both had a lot to drink.

I have once told my Dh (after a fair bit of wine) his luck was out due to me being a star fish

I wouldnt read too much into it.

I can understand that you would be upset but be careful of blowing it out of proportion.

Ask him calmly why he said no last night to a kiss.

Maybe he felt that he wouldnt be able to perform and was too embarrased to tell you?

Ok so sod the name change. He did it again last night. I asked him for a kiss and all i got a sigh and then a peck on the cheek.

I am so confused.