Relationships

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Are shit! why do we even bother?!

Well said... I agree
at the moment

They don't have to be.

It's just hard to get past ones own personal blueprint I think?

Well don't bother with the shit ones then.

Easy.

Some relationships are good.

what if one never gets a good one?

Why DO you bother? I don't. I have no interest in couple-relationships, always found them a PITA when I did do them and have been blissfully single for years.
OK some people enjoy them and there's nothing wrong with that, but they are not essential, and plenty of people are genuinely happier being single.

I do find it so depressing how many people are prepared to spend years in relationships that are either lifesuckingly dull or actively horrible, just so as not to be single, when being single is so nice.

(This is not to say that being in a good relationship isn't nice, if you are a person who likes couple-relationships. SOme of us genuinely don't. I have had couple-relationships with very nice men, many of whom are still friends, but I just found it unbearable after a while, I really really like my own company.)

SGB - you always talk sense. But have you ever been in love? Don't you want to be with the loved one?

EHB: having met you and your STBDH I can see that you're right for each other and wish you all the best. And the fact that you have had the crap ones and learned from it meant that when you found a good one you were able to go forward with the right attitude and all that so good on you!
CUI: That's terribly subjective. I have loved people and do love various people - some of the actual couple relationships I engaged in were great for a while but I never actually wanted to move in with them and always got bored and restless. Couplehood is simply not for me and at least I worked that out before really screwing up the life of one of the nice blokes by marrying him, or screwing up my own life by desperately clinging on to and coaxing, begging or bullying into marriage, one of the not-so-nice ones I thought I was 'in love' with.

I think my problem with being single is that I am hormonally overwhelmed, and don't have good enough judgment/people handling skills to have a series of sexual liaisons without getting into all sorts of shit.

The idea of someone reliable and trustworthy is very appealing but then it probably wouldn't suit me to be married either.

I just need to work on the whole thing really but you can't get an evening class about how to have a happily, sexually fulfilling single lifestyle can you.