for all the good men out there!

[glasgowmandy]

i recently read a topic about someone wanting their child to grow up a lesbian because of how bad men are!!

i realised looking through others that all men get is slaggings off, bitchiness, and most men are made out to be complete pigs!

well my DP is the most wonderful man ive ever none, i wish i could show him how much me and my DD appreciate allllll he does for us, all his hard work, all his patience with my ridiculous mood swings, the love and respect he shows me everyday, how much he protects me and his family,

he does so much for us, and i know theres plenty of men out there who deserve such a big pat on the back!! just wanna say thankyou to all those men who do so much much! xx

At least two lesbian friends (one of whom has also dated men in the past, so she was able to compare) have told me that if you think same sex relationships are easier because both partners are on the same page, think again! Everyone has their demons.

Bear in mind that on a site like this you are likely to see the worst of relationships, precisely because this is where people come to sort out problems. As it's mainly aimed at parents, it will tend to emphasise male/female couple problems. I will further stick my neck out and suggest that women are more likely to discuss relationships than men are, so you will hear a whole load of women slagging off men but a lot less of the other way round. Doesn't mean it's necessarily happening that way round in the rest of the world (although I'm not saying it isn't).

no i know totally true! god i have my issues with my partner and can come on and have a good moan! but i just wanted to say my bit, i dont think most men get enough praise, i rarely see anything good said, so i just wanted to .. well say it!

ive gone through a lot with my 8 month old and im surprised hes stuck around to be honest! i can turn into a monster with him too! but for all he does i just appreciate so much,x

wow, that's an odd thing to want.

My x was about as bad as it's possible for a human being to be, i just want to raise my kids to find relationships with people who don't cherish them very UNappealing.

who dont cherish them?? why?

i know there isnt perfect men out there, my dad being one of them!! he left me and my mum brother and sister for another women turned my mums life upside down! but im lucky to have someone with a good decent heart.
and i do hope my DD finds the same when shes older x

glasgowmandy, I want them to find people who don't treat them with respect very UNattractive. Do you see what I mean?

we're all drawn sometimes unconsciously towards ways of behaving and familiar relationship patterns. I want them to find a partner treating them badly totally weird and to instantly walk away without a backward glance - NOt to be drawn into it, like a sleep walker.

see what you mean magalyzz sorry mis read you there, i absolutley hate the thought of my DD ever growing up to be in any kind of bad relationship or being hurt as soooo many woman have, suppose thats life though,
just hope i can raise her to be respectful too! and to get that from someone in return,

i think its sad that most men get slatted for so much, theres never anything good that ive seen written on here about them, my DP must be exhausted 24/7 but he still plods on and does everything he can for us and never moans, im a total dragon to him at the best of times, with my crazy mood swings! i thought from the thread i had red previously that, wanting your daughter to be a lesbian because men are so bad is just ridiculous, i actually think women are worse in some instances, vicious! x

Yeah, I've been unlucky, well I say unlucky but I have to take responsibility for the fact that I kind of walked like a lemming into a relationship I knew wasn't right. WHY did I do that?! the million dollar question. But my various friends all have good husbands. Their relationships are equal and their husbands are basically kind good people despite a few minor flaws, which we all have! So I don't hate men or think they're all bad. So hopefully I can pass that 'belief' on to my daughter despite being single myself.

This is a site full of women. Complaints always travel faster than praise.

and you wonder why men get such a slagging off in here?

Mine is lovely too. Absolutley gorgeous. he adores our son and is a fab hubby.

Under no illusion though, i know it could all crash down any moment.

Recently had a shock from a family couple who had been together for over 30 years, since they were 13 years old.....he did the dirty and it was like we had all been hit by a truck, unbelievable doesnt cover it.

I "chose" my partner very carefully, i can honestly say that. I was very concrete in my head about what i would and would not accept in a partner.
Not sure if its luck or choice. You can never ever predict how things will turn out, but you can influence how they begin cant you. For me this was the bench mark for our future.

As i say, it could all crash about my ears so i do not feel smug or lucky, but some what in control.