Coping living under same roof during divorce

[marantha]

Please help.
My husband and myself are divorcing. We are currently living under the same roof.
It has been tolerable thus far as we are both out at work, however, we both have a few weeks off (which we booked yonks ago) at the moment and I am finding it hard to maintain a "civil" manner towards him.
How can I cope with this- I don't want arguments with him.

I'm in the same position. It sucks but has to be done until we sell our house. We both try to go out at least once or twice a week in the evening with our respective friends and try and coordinate so we do different nights.

When we are in I still cook dinner for him...and try my utmost to remain civil. There is no point in being snippy with each other.

You probably will have the odd argument, but that would happen anyway. We talk about most stuff by email though and spend evenings in separate rooms. I hate it, but it is doable....it has to be. Just try to get through it and know that it will be a limited time.

I'm spending evenings organising the computer so I have all my stuff in one place. Plus chucking out rubbbish that we won't be able to keep when we move to separate places.

You need to work out what you will do on your weeks off. Maybe take the kids out separately, and make the most of being able to go out when you want in the evenings without getting a babysitter. Even just going to the movies by yourself is better than sitting in the house together. Good luck..you can do it.

I developed a heavy computer games habit so I could legitimately turn my back on him every evening. Brought its own problems, of course...

Thanks for tips. Haven't got children (thank goodness) together. I think I'm going to arrange some days out or go and stay with some family to get away from him.

Or go for long walks and things. We are civil but I know he can't stand me and vice versa.

Best to stay out of each other's face until I leave, I think.