Anti-depressants and the inability to climax?

[imtheonlyone]

I'm following up on something I've just picked up from another thread - and apologies if this has been covered before but I'm new to this.

I've been on anti-depressants for over 18 months now. I was with my now XH when I first started on them and wasn't having sex at the time. I've now started a new relationship with super bf and great sex .... except for I can't cum! I've never had a problem with this before and have read that it could be a side effect of the medication. Is there any point in seeing if I can change it or do I just have to put up with no climax until I can come off the medication?

My new partner thinks it's all his fault even though I have mentioned that it could be he medication. Also, will I be able to cum again once I'm no longer taking the pills??? Bit worried I'll never get it back!! the sex is great, all the feeling is there so there is no reason for me not to climax IYSWIM!

Anyone with any experience in this, would appreciate your feedback - thanks!

The leaflets inside my ADs (both types) say "delayed orgasm" is a common side-effect. Delayed by several years, in my case!!

However. My shrink gave me 2 pieces of advice re this: If I had a hot date, not to take the meds that day; delayed orgasm is also a side-effect of depression, so you can't always blame the meds. I found his advice correct on both counts - mine have started to show up again, even though I'm still on the meds, so I must be getting better

Might be an idea to miss them out once in a while with DP. If it makes the difference, that should set his mind at rest anyway.
Annoying, isn't it?!

I feel a bit TMI about this but also feel happy that I can help you!

I was on them recently for a short time (only 4 months) after I lost my job. This was the worst part of it and I even tried to talk to the doctor about it but she just concentrated on my loss of libido. It was so scary the first time that I realised that I physically couldn't even make myself come. It got better over time - first of all just took ages and I would get really, really tense and shaking in order to be able to. Then it got past that and my DP could make me come again but it just never felt the same as it always had, before and during orgasms. But I'm happy to report that within about a week of coming off everything was back to normal, including my libido, and it was such a relief, I appreciated it all the more

Reassure your man that it's 100% the pills! Which ones are you on btw, mine were Sertraline. Horrific side effects but that was the worst, because of the psychological stuff.

When do you expect to come off them? And can you orgasm alone? (Or is that tmi )

My dh has bipolar and is on antideps long term. He had a major issue with this when he started taking them but it did improve with time and dedicated practice. It does depend on the drug as some stay in your system longer than others and the skipping a dose approach might not work. It will be temporary though.

Thanks guys, I appreciate you sharing your experiences with me. I'm glad to hear it's temporary! And yes, it's incredibly annoying!!!!!

I can climax when stimulated with foreplay and direct contact with the clitoris, although this does take me longer than it used to and it doesn't always happen either!!!

I don't feel I have a problem with my libido - but I am in the throws of a new relationship so we're having sex all the time!!!! I feel for him because what he enjoys most is pleasing a woman during sex .... and I just can't do that for him!!

As for when I might come off them I don't know. I am feeling so much better - doc says best to wait till the divorce it all finalised and all that stress is out of the way. There is still a possibility that XH will take things to court and that fills me with dread!!

I'm on Citalopram - 40g so a fairly high dose?? Just feel so bad because this is potentially the best sex I've ever had!!!!

this happened to me on citlopram and i ended up stopping them because my sex ;life really suffered.

I'm now on prozac and things are muchbetter!

think i spelt citolopram wrong

It's not delayed for me, just dulled. But it happened when I was suffering from the symptoms of anxiety too so on balance I'm happier this way.