DH was offered a job interview for a job on the west coast of scotland. We live up North.
We hummed and hahhed it over.
I mainly left the decision to DH. It is his job we would have to change.
We have 2 DCs (3 + 1), good ages to move, so I was fairly easy. Though secretly wasn't sure, I didn't let on too much to DH.
He made the decision not to go for the interview, saying he really didn't want to move us all over there, he really is very happy where we live.
My parents and little sis (26, so not sooo little) live 5 miles away. I see my mum lots and my sis a bit.
I have been under my mums apron for too long though and my sis can really drive me mad ( just to give you a wee run down).
I now wonder at DH saying he wanted to stay here. My parents have been in America for 3 months and have had a week back (they head off again tomorrow for a further 3 months) and DH has done his utmost to avoid them.
He thinks knows he wants to stay here. He feels so happy here. But I told him that we cannot base that on the last 3 months, cos my parents have been away.
Just being back this week, and already DH and I are at loggerheads cos he tries to avoid them (who knows why. Could be the whole feeling judged and coming up short, and my sister tries so very hard to please everyone, she ends up irritating the hell out of us all!) and then I am stuck between a rock and hard place. sigh.
And, because he turns into an awkward sod, I am left feeling cross at him and as if he does fall short of the mark.
It is a horrid old cycle.
And yet he refuses, ok not refuses, he just doesn't want to leave but also won't change his behaviour or explain it.
What is a girl to do??
I guess I will ride it out. See how it all is when they come back in September.
But I know, already, I am wondering should he have just gone for the interview and should we strike out on our own. Get me out from under my parents influence and judgment (all beit that they aren't doing it out of malice, but out of confusion as to why DH behaves this way?!)
urgh! He just makes me feel cross and frustrated sometimes!
Help!