How often do you have sex?

[woodchuck]

Just wondering really, as the averages that you hear in the media seem unlikely to be representative of people with small children.

I only just feel like I am getting my groove back and youngest dc is 4. We now manage about twice a week, although until recently it has been more like once or twice a month.

So what's normal for parents of young kids?

All the live-long day.

I'm doing it right now.

Depends. Usually it's twice a week or so, but there's a week every month where it's pretty much every night.

Seven times a day, eight on Sundays and ten on me birthday!

But you get a day off at Christmas, don't you Ruby ?

I'd have been interested in this thread when I was married, because XH used to claim he never got any, whereas my recollection was more like 2-3 times a week. I was convinced that what he got was fairly normal, he was convinced that I was horribly frigid, or probably getting it with someone else. (I even kept a diary for a while, but he wouldn't accept it as proof.)

I missed it a lot in the first few months after throwing him out of my bed, but the 'ormones have got used to the lack now and I'm perfectly happy not getting any at all (4 years and counting). Sometimes I feel I'd kind of like to have a stunning young lover, if only to stick up XH's nose, but most of the time I really couldn't be bothered.

2-3 times in a week with one toddler and another on the way.

we have swayed from once every couple of days to once every couple of months.
we both enjoy it it is more about logistics and putting the effort in.

thankfully DH and i are on the same page about it.

anything from once to 7 times a week.. sometimes more if kidfree weekend.. I dont really count. But we're happy.

We both seem to want it when the other one does.. I guess thats what counts.

Hehe bibbitybobbityhat yes I certainly need one!!
back to normal on boxing day though

Alouiseg

I'm with you on this one. My bloody 10 year old wont go to bed and if we do try to creep away for a bit you get the mam, dad up the stairs.....so most of the time I think oh I cant even be bothered tbh.

I do love my husband very much but sex doesnt bother me as much as him. Not sure if thats just a bloke thing though.

Good luck everybody.

When we're both in the mood and have the energy. And most importantly of all are in the same place, at the same time!

Was more frequent before we had children, a lot less frequent when they were quite young, and a bit more frequent now that they're a little older. Not sure how you can keep accurate statistics though, or even how useful they are.

Everyone's circumstances are different to some degree and everyone has different libidos. If you're not happy with your own sex life all you can realistically do is look at the issues that affect your own situation and try to address them. If you feel permanently exhausted because you've a couple of children under two, for example, so what if another couple who've recently met are doing it twice a night?