After years of lying, disrespectful behaviour, embarrasment and silly arguments I told my partner I wanted to leave. He didn't seem that bothered which annoyed me further - he is only concerned with the finances and what I'll take.
Basically when I first moved here, I only brought a small number of things with me (washing machine, a table, a sky box!) and almost everything else in the house was his. Over the years though we have been slowly replacing things so that most stuff is now "ours".
I have not told him yet but I am moving out in two weeks. I didn't tell him because I know he won't let me take anything so one day whilst he's at work I'm going to just go and take what I feel I should take. I want to be fair though, obviously but the way he's been talking, I should basically leave him with 90% of the stuff and give him half of the money for what I DO take!!
So, to play it fair, what DO I take? We both have kids so neither of us can be going without. The TV I will leave as it was his to start with but what about the sofa we both paid for? The bed is his so I'll have to buy a new one but I can't afford to buy new everything like he expects me to. The bedroom drawers/wardrobe/bedside tables - we both paid for them, do I take the drawers and leave the wardrobe? other way around? I don't know!
Other big problem is the car. It is mine. I am registered owner, registered keeper, it was bought on a loan in my name - the loan I will be taking with me so obviously I want the car too! He will argue though that he can't get to work which to be fair, he won't be able to get to work without it but I don't want to leave it here when I'm the one paying for it and why should I go without anyway?
He also thinks I should be paying half of what bills arrive when I leave - even though I'll have a load of stuff to pay at my new house.
I don't want to be a bitch but I'm not a mug either. How do I play this? the car thing is particulary bothering me.