AIBU???

[imtheonlyone]

So, am lying in bed this morning and my two boys come in (5 and 2) for a morning cuddle. They have been with my XH all weekend and his new girlfriend. Incidently, he is still in the marital home at this time.
So my eldest says to my youngest 'shall we play that game we played with OW?' what game I wonder .... well apparently it's the one where they were lying in bed and trying to get OW's 'boobies' whilst she was trying to hide them and XH was encouraging them to grab them!!!!
Now, I'm sorry but I see this as totally inappropriate behaviour - but AIBU?? I rang him in a fit of anger and have since sent him an e- mail explaining just how disrespectful I find what they have done in allowing this situation to occur. I moevd out of the family home in March and he onyl recently (about a month ago) introduced the boys to his new woman!
Thoughts please - and perhaps re-assurance that I'm not being unreasonable here? There are lines to be drawn with new partners?? We did actually have a discussion about not having the kids in bed with our new partners and he agreed to this and then I get this!

That is so weird. Playing hide and seek in the bed with a toy I would find abit much with a new partner and children, but this is not right. No reason or need for it.

that is most bizarre and I would feel extremely unhappy about it if I were you. I can't really see how the getting in bed can be avoided, or indeed what harm it would ordinarily do, but why does this woman and your DH want your boys grabbing her boobs??? Very very odd.

BTW i would also expect her to wear PJs if they were getting in bed with them - that was a terrible sentence but you know what i mean.

That's bordering on sexual abuse, not "disrespectful". I am VERY

wtf?
YANBU

YANBU. At all.

I would approach it from a different angle and ask what the game was. Why he thought it was appropriate and what was the point. Remind him of the no children in bed with partners deal and try and stay calm.

What he has done is not on at all.

OMG that is so not on! New rules need to be set and adhered to. Terrible stuff. Ask him how he would feel if his sons were in your bed with you and a new parter with you encouraging them to look at his nipples and squeeze them? Not on at all.

wondering how this game started?

Thanks for your rapid responses! I am so glad I'm not way out here!

I don't want to think about how the game began!! It makes me feel sick to think about it if I'm honest!

Time for new ground rules I think! Thanks!

Isn't that sexual abuse?

Ask him how he will feel should they mention it at school/nursery? Completely inappropriate by the sound of it though.

That's just wrong. YANBU.