My mum has convinced herself that she will die within a year (hyperchondria)

[poshsinglemum]

I have posted about my mum's list of ailments. Now she has a bad mouth ulcer. She couldn't eat Sunday dinner and instead came downstairs saying how she thought she had mouth cancer and would die within the year. I just cannot cope any more.
To be honest I think she will die before her time because she has given up and will think herself ill. She is 58 not 88. She is a mess. I have limited sympathy because she dosn't look after herself at all.
If she did have cancer I would be devastated of course but it's like the boy who cries wolf. She always ahs ailmenst so when something really bad happens we all groan inwardly.
My sister lives on the opposite side of the country and is a high flying job as a doctor. She has a supportive partner but does bugger all to help me with mum whereas I'm a struggling single mum who tries to help mum. Sis phoned last night and just told me that mum was lonely but that I should spend LESS time with her.

I think your sister might have a point. The more you feed her attention seeking, the worse it will get.
Instead, suggest she visits the doctor in the morning, or the dentist to have the mouth ulcer checked out and then change the subject.
I'm sure you are right in thinking that she will reduce her natural life by worrying about it, worry is an utterly pointless exercise, but some people are not happy unless they have something to worry about. You won't change it, so try to put the burden onto someone else, who is more qualified that you to deal with it.

people like this usually manage to outlive everyone around them,
agree with dutchoma

Hi all again. I think I am going to cut down contact with her and see her once a week. She is always asking to see us as she plays the ''I'm lonely'' card.