just stopped a potential affair/break up whatever

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Just feel like I have lost something that in fact I never had in the first place. I feel sad, and he does too.

Life isn't very straightforward is it. Which is ok, otherwise it would be damn boring. Gonna count my blessings, and lick my wounds.

Good for you. The sadness is nothing compared to the hurt of the other parties involved, especially if there are children. The guilt you would have felt as well will now not take place, you've both saved yourselves a lot of stress. Romantic affairs are like drugs, they usually self distruct given time, leaving nothing but sorrow all round.

Good luck.

thanks celticfairy. It's a case of not doing anything. As that wuold be wrong, and pointless. If it was meant to be then it will have to be when or if he is free. Not sitting around waiting tho.

all credit to you, it can be a very hard thing to do - but going there causes so much more pain.

very hard. just makes me go 'whoah', how things can just come into your life, so suddenly.

i don't feel very happy, but know that it will hopefully go. i am a divorced person, and know what it feels like, that's why it put the fear of god into me. Yet i can now somehow understand how things change. my mother left my father, and now i appreciate the pain she went thru.

you won't feel very happy now, but it is NOTHING to the pain you (and others) could be feeling if you go went down that path.

you know that, take it easy, take one day at a time, it passes.

Fair play to you!

You have morals and self respect, I respect that in a person

thanks. day one done! wine open.
have 1 missed call from earlier, and one text asking how i am, but i can't even think what to say.

don't reply.
there isn't anything to say.
xx