Now I know I'm probably asking for it by name changing in this topic but I am a regular, I Promise!(iCod, JudgeFlounce, MarkHenley etc)- name change to protect other parties involved as this one involves a friend.
Anyway,I have a dilemma I've been mulling over all week and would appreciate some MN advice.
The situ is I'm a single mum and so is my pal. Her family are overseas (this is relevant). She's been through some very tough times recently and I've given her a lot of support, none of which I grudge for a moment 'cos I know how tough it can be having been there myself and just coming through the other side. We see each other usually once or twice a week and often with the DCs.
Now, she asked me last week if she can come and stay with me and my family at Christmas as her DC is going to stay with her ex and she can't get home to her family. This will mean spending 2-3 days together as neither of drive and travel is involved). To be honest, I'm a bit blindsided by this and not sure it's a good idea but otoh I know she will be totally on her own at xmas and I would hate to leave anybody in that position.
In my heart of hearts I am thinking 'no' but then I feel incredibly guilty thinking of her stuck on her own. What to do? If I say no then it will probably damage the friendship. However I do feel that she is imposing on my good nature a little bit.
I know many posters will likely think I'm a mean spirited cow, fair dos.
Any advice on this delicate situation, please advise!