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Best friends wedding coming up - dreading it.

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verytrickysituation · 05/06/2010 11:42

My best friend is getting married this year and a few years ago i found out something that i wished I'd never found out. Her boyfriend(the Fiance)told me that he had been unfaithful to her during a trip away with the lads for a drinking night.

Originally a family friend told me she saw him snogging one of her mates in a nightclub.

Me and my friend used to go out on a Wednesday just chilling having something to eat at McDonalds or KFC and drive around in my car. She would say things like 'he didn't come home til 8am or he stayed out to gone 4am'

I have never told her about her partners infidelities as i would feel like i am crushing her whole world. I believe he has now stopped doing what he used to do.

Now when my met my husband, i was with my friend who's getting married and she got very close to one of my husbands friends, she kissed him and she would have done more.
My only quarrel is my husband knows about everything between the two of them and he feels my friend is too good for her Fiance. I fear it may be let slip at the wedding and i don't want that to happen. I want her to now enjoy her married life with her husband and be happy and start a family.

This was some years ago - But WWYD?

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Curiousmama · 05/06/2010 11:46

I think you know deep down. It's their life let them get on with it. There's always divorce if like many marriages it doesn't work. You'll only end up the bad one if you say anything and to be honest they sound as bad as each other anyway.

lazarusb · 05/06/2010 19:01

Ultimately, they've got this far and they are not your responsibility. Let's hope they have both changed and are getting married for the right reasons.

lucky1979 · 05/06/2010 20:17

Tell your DH to button it at the wedding. It's the most inappropriate place possible to do it and will most likely end up with the pair of them hating the pair of you.

Sounds like they both behaved badly at the beginning of the relationship and are now over it - if they're not then they will break up, but if you were going to say anything then you should have done it beforehand, at her wedding is not the time!

verytrickysituation · 05/06/2010 21:25

Oh I am not going to say anything. I want my best friend to enjoy her day and start a family. She is best friend of 21years (I am 24) so known her since we were 3! They are good together, been together 8 years!

I love my best mate to bits, I would never do anything hurt her.

Think I might get my dh to stay off the booze that night!

Thanks ladies

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