how far, in friendship, is too far?

[thegirlwiththemouseyhair]

I was on the phone to a close, old friend yesterday whose daughter's actions had triggered off a memory for me of a really bad relationship (I mean REALLY BAD) and I was extremely upset and in tears only to be told to 'Grow up'.
I was horrified and cried even more (not a good day...) and she started the whole 'Friends should be allowed to have fights' thing.
Yes of course BUT I was feeling very vulnerable and she was NOT being a friend.
I know she was defending her daughter but

She's wrong. Friends should be allowed to have disagreements, but "fights" ... well, maybe she's the one who needs to do a bit of growing up?

She sounds a bit selfish to me. Did she expect you to switch off your emotions? Friends- in fact nobody- has the right to criticise you like that. Sometimes, even years down the line when we've moved on, certain things trigger memories, good and bad. Hope you feel better soon