Its quite long Im afraid. Basically, a few weeks ago I noticed DP had added a woman to his facebook page. I thought no more of it and just assumed it was someone from work. Then one day he's looking at his emails in hotmail and I glance across and notice a couple of "you have a new message of ***" from facebook. Still I don't think much of it but when he mentions this woman and I ask casually if they've messaged each other, he says no. I don't care about them messaging, but why would he lie about it?
Its a woman he knew from highschool that he's not seen for years. Fair enough. But why lie?
So anyway I let it go. But then a few nights ago he was looking at his emails again and there was a "you have a new message from " and he just turned off his hotmail account quickly without even looking at it. Surely this is not normal behaviour?
Then last night I asked him to go on facebook to see if someone we know is online. He did and up at the top the "New message" thing is highlighted. He scrolls down quickly to make it disapear. I said "you're very secretive with your facebook messages, arnt you?" he laughs nervously and says "Not really". Yet still he doesn't look at the new message. I say "why are you scared to look at that message then? is it because I'm here and you don't want me to see it?" and he says "No, I'll look at it in a minute" in a shaky, nervous voice. Still he keeps messing around on the status thing, stalling, trying to change the subject and then the mouse starts heading towards the "X" in the corner, he was pretending to have forgotten. So I said "are you going to look at that message before you turn it off?" he sounds panicked and says "in a minute!" eventually he reluctantly clicks on the message and I see they have messaged each other in depth messages for a week or so.
I don't mind them messaging but why did he lie? why did he want to keep it from me? I'm NOT normally a jealous person, its the way he acts that makes me suspicious. But anyway I notice that she asks him if hes married. He says no, he's divorced. Which he is, from his ex but at this point wouldn't you mention your current parnter??? but no, he just said he was divorced which imo implies he's single. She goes on to ask him about his current life, no mention of me at all.
Now the one that really got me was I notice a message saying "come back!!" and then "I'm sorry" both from her. The next one from his says "aww don't be silly! sorry about that, my internet connection went down". What really happened at this point is that I walked in the room and he shut down the laptop quickly. Why would you act like that if its all innocent??