Why did I look....and then keep looking???

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Why exactly did I feel the need to look on my ex-dh's girlfriends' profile on facebook and then proceed to look at all her photos...nice close up ones of them together...??? Why why why...I felt so sick to the stomach.

We have been split up for a year...he was involved with her before he decided he did not love me anymore...

Then I go and look at his profile too...more photos of them together!!!

WTF....will I ever get over him???

Yes, you really will!! But stop torturing yourself with their photographs. He wasn't good enough for you then, and he's not worth crying over now.

you needed ot do it, yu need to process it, then you'll move on from it

I know I would have done the same thing - its almost compulsive torture isnt it?

But you will get over him in time

Unmnetty hugs

Thanks...yes you are so right Jenduff..

I could'nt help myself...it was horrible..they looked really happy. There are ones of him and her and my DD..like she is THEIR DD...

That must be so upsetting WTUD, seeing your DD with them That would hurt me.

But, I agree with piratecat, you will hurt, you will deal with it and then you will move on. There will come a day when it will no longer bother you.

It took about 2 yrs for me.

i looked once, i googled in fact and saw my ex dh's wedding in glorious interweb colour, THERE to see.
Shocked the life out of me, was compulsive viewing, got me sad, angry, heartsore.

but afte a while i was just a bit 'meh' about it tbh.

5yrs on now.

OMG Piratecat, that must have been horrible for you....

I look forward to the day when I could'nt give 2 shits about him and her..

'SHE' wants to go to by DD's dance performance along with my ex dh next month but I have said if she goes then I don't...Do you think I am being fair?? I think I might have the urge to rip her head off and s* down her neck tbh..

Grrrrrrrrrr....

I think your being fair, should not expect you to share a room when you still feel so strongly. I do sympathise with the facebook looking, I would do it too. Just imagine though, your dp looking at fb you have taken in the future. Wether you get into another relationship or not, pictures with your dc which he is not party to will still sting.

I can't believe she thinks she has any right to be at the dance performance - that is for the Mum and Dad - not the OW!!

She must think she is playing happy families

In my book you would have every right to rip her head off.

Are you me?! My ex's wife refers to my ds as hers (she's only 13yrs older than him) and she wanted to go parents' evenings etc. at school.Bitch. It's only been a year for you, give yourself a break and don't torture yourself looking at photos. You will always be Mummy- she never will be.

I've had a weird day today...woke up with the vision of them together in my head..it has been there all day...

I sometimes feel like I am 'outside looking in' on my own life and its not really reality...has anyone else ever felt like that?

I wouldn't put it in terms of "If she goes, I don't", she might think that's a great idea and deliberately go to prevent you from going so she can play happy families with your DD while you are left out.

Tell your exH that it's totally inappropriate and she is not welcome to come. Do you have a relative you can take like a mum or sister so that you have moral support if she does just turn up? (or to hold your coat while you rip her head off )

With regards to the facebook thing, I totally understand that it is irresistable to do things like that, I definitely do! It takes time, but you will get over him, you will think he's a nasty cheating git who you are better off without and you will laugh your head off that the nasty pair are stuck with each other.

my little sister does this too - she and her ex split up over a year ago and although he has blocked her she continues to look at his new gf's photos and tortures herself over them even though she is very much in love with her new partner.

Console yourself with that fact that one day, he will cheat on her too.

here here shiny

well beat this, my ex and ow use a webcab chat room thing I used to watch them every night chatting away! Was horrible but I couldn't stop.
In the end I had to just not turn the computer on in the evenings for a while to break the habit. Not I don't care what they are doing. It does get easier, you just have to break through the pain barrier.

now I don't care...